Free Resource: Gottman Card Decks

John Gottman is a leading relationship author and researcher. His Card Decks, previously available for purchase in actual decks of game-like cards, are now available for free from the Apple and Google app stores. Search for "Gottman Card Decks" in your app store.

The app includes the following "decks" of communication and activity suggestions for use in intimate relationships:

• Love Maps: Learning about your partner's inner world.
• Open-Ended Questions: Tell each other stories about life, hope, and dreams.
• Rituals of Connection: Ideas for creating new relationship rituals.
• Opportunity: Suggested for new things to do together.
• Sex Questions to Ask a Man
• Sex Questions to Ask a Woman
• Give Appreciation: Suggested words of gratitude to give your partner.
• I Feel...: Identify your feelings and share them with your partner.
• Salsa (Mild, Medium, Hot): Three separate decks with suggested activities for "spicing up" your sex life. 
• Expressing Needs: Help with expressing your needs to your partner.
• Expressing Empathy: Help with expressing empathy for what your partner is feeling.
• Great Listening: Questions designed to help partners understand each other's experience.

Whether you use the app together as a couple, or use it individually to help you be more creative in your conversation & connection, this app can be a useful tool.

A Note to Men: You may feel frustrated with your wife/partner's suggestions that you "share more" or "do more" in the relationship because you don't know what you're suppose to say or do. This deck provides some good ideas to get you going!