an Affair Healing Podcast
Tim Tedder hosts "The Recovery Room" podcast, an audio program focused on affair healing. Listen here or in Apple Podcasts, Google Play, SoundCloud, Stitcher, TuneIn and other popular podcast feeds.
"Gaslighting: You Make Me Crazy"
Tim & Sharon Tedder discuss gaslighting. What is gaslighting? How does it show up during an affair and in various stages of affair recovery? What should you do if you someone is trying to gaslight you?
Upcoming Podcasts:
- Getting the Truth
- When He Leaves for Another Woman (a series from various perspectives)
Past Episodes
#502 Dealing with Multiple Affairs
Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras discuss unique issues to be consdidered when working with someone who has had multiple affairs. Is real recovery possible? What should the betrayed partner do? What should the involved partner do?
#501 Satisfying Choices, Lasting Change
Tim Tedder talks about what influences the choices and changes we make with particular focus on decisions made in the aftermath of an affair. In the introduction, Tim and Sharon discuss life shifts resulting from COVID-19.
#408 Stuck On A Feeling: The Power of Limerence
Tim and Sharon Tedder interview Dr. L, a neuroscientist, to learn more about the limerence experience. What's going on in the brain of someone who is caught up in the powerful emotions often experienced in an affair (a condition sometimes called "Affair Fog")?
#407 Infidelity Choices: Compromise, Indecision, Recovery
Tim, Sharon, and Jenn discuss infidelity choices that result in compromises (crossing the line into infidelity), indecision, and affair recovery as they review earlier conversations about these issues.
#406 Infidelity Reactions: Anger, Children, Forgiveness
Tim, Sharon, and Jennifer discuss affair responses related to anger, children, and forgiveness as they review their earlier conversations about these topics.
#405 Check-In: What do they remember about the affair?
Tim, Sharon, and Jenn discuss a caller's question about whether or not to believe her husband's claim that he cannot remember the details of his infidelity.
#404 Why Did You Cheat?
Tim Tedder reviews the process for helping clients gain insight into the "why" of their infidelity.
#403 Check-In: Sex Struggles After an Affair?
Tim Tedder responds to a caller's question about sexual disconnection after her husband's affair.
#402 Check-In: How do I help him heal from my affair?
Our counselors respond to one woman's question about what she can do to help her husband, who still seems stuck two years after her affair.
#401 Post Betrayal Transformation: Debi Silber Interview
Dr. Debi Silber talks to Tim about the five stages of post betrayal transformation.
#306 Trauma of Betrayal Pt 2: Recovering from Trauma
Tim & Sharon Tedder address the trauma of betrayal. In Part 2, they focus on therapies and exercises that assist in recovery from trauma.
#305 Trauma of Betrayal Pt 1: Understanding Trauma
Tim & Sharon Tedder address the trauma of betrayal. In Part 1, they focus on understanding the trauma experience.
#304 Affair Recovery Q&A #2
Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder and Jennifer Gingras answer callers' questions regarding healing from infidelity...
#303 The State of Affairs #2: Telling & Exploring
Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras discuss Esther Perel's book, The State of Affairs. In part 2, they talk about whether or not to tell about an affair and the issues that might need to be explored by couples who want to grow on the other side of infidelity.
#302 The State of Affairs #1: Meaning & Roles
Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras discuss Esther Perel's book, The State of Affairs. In part 1, they talk about understanding the meaning behind an affair and the role of each partner in the recovery process.
#301 Affair Recovery Q&A #1
Tim Tedder and Sharon Tedder give their responses to four questions asked by callers.
Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras discuss unique issues to be consdidered when working with someone who has had multiple affairs. Is real recovery possible? What should the betrayed partner do? What should the involved partner do?
#501 Satisfying Choices, Lasting Change
Tim Tedder talks about what influences the choices and changes we make with particular focus on decisions made in the aftermath of an affair. In the introduction, Tim and Sharon discuss life shifts resulting from COVID-19.
#408 Stuck On A Feeling: The Power of Limerence
Tim and Sharon Tedder interview Dr. L, a neuroscientist, to learn more about the limerence experience. What's going on in the brain of someone who is caught up in the powerful emotions often experienced in an affair (a condition sometimes called "Affair Fog")?
#407 Infidelity Choices: Compromise, Indecision, Recovery
Tim, Sharon, and Jenn discuss infidelity choices that result in compromises (crossing the line into infidelity), indecision, and affair recovery as they review earlier conversations about these issues.
#406 Infidelity Reactions: Anger, Children, Forgiveness
Tim, Sharon, and Jennifer discuss affair responses related to anger, children, and forgiveness as they review their earlier conversations about these topics.
#405 Check-In: What do they remember about the affair?
Tim, Sharon, and Jenn discuss a caller's question about whether or not to believe her husband's claim that he cannot remember the details of his infidelity.
#404 Why Did You Cheat?
Tim Tedder reviews the process for helping clients gain insight into the "why" of their infidelity.
#403 Check-In: Sex Struggles After an Affair?
Tim Tedder responds to a caller's question about sexual disconnection after her husband's affair.
#402 Check-In: How do I help him heal from my affair?
Our counselors respond to one woman's question about what she can do to help her husband, who still seems stuck two years after her affair.
#401 Post Betrayal Transformation: Debi Silber Interview
Dr. Debi Silber talks to Tim about the five stages of post betrayal transformation.
#306 Trauma of Betrayal Pt 2: Recovering from Trauma
Tim & Sharon Tedder address the trauma of betrayal. In Part 2, they focus on therapies and exercises that assist in recovery from trauma.
#305 Trauma of Betrayal Pt 1: Understanding Trauma
Tim & Sharon Tedder address the trauma of betrayal. In Part 1, they focus on understanding the trauma experience.
#304 Affair Recovery Q&A #2
Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder and Jennifer Gingras answer callers' questions regarding healing from infidelity...
#303 The State of Affairs #2: Telling & Exploring
Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras discuss Esther Perel's book, The State of Affairs. In part 2, they talk about whether or not to tell about an affair and the issues that might need to be explored by couples who want to grow on the other side of infidelity.
#302 The State of Affairs #1: Meaning & Roles
Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras discuss Esther Perel's book, The State of Affairs. In part 1, they talk about understanding the meaning behind an affair and the role of each partner in the recovery process.
#301 Affair Recovery Q&A #1
Tim Tedder and Sharon Tedder give their responses to four questions asked by callers.
#214 Healing Alone After An Affair
Tim and Sharon Tedder discuss various issues to consider when healing from an affair means leaving the marriage.
#213 Crossing the Line: When Does Infidelity Begin?
Tim Tedder considers the line between fidelity and infidelity and examines two affair stories to gain insight into when and how the lines are crossed.
#212 Affair Recovery Myths
Counselors Tim and Sharon Tedder talk about 6 common affair recovery myths.
#211 Loveable
Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder, and Jennifer Gingras talk about affair healing issues of worthiness, shame, and grace in their discussion of the book Loveable by Kelly Flanagan.
#210 7 Things Your Betrayed Partner Wishes You Knew
Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder, and Jennifer Gingras discuss 7 truths about affair recovery that betrayed spouses wish their partners understood.
#209 A Reconnected Marriage
Tim Tedder explains the steps necessary for couples who, after an affair, want to experience intimacy and trust in their marriage again. He interviews Ryan and Jen who talk about their satisfying marriage seven years after Ryan confessed having multiple affairs. (Relationship Renewal Stage 5)
#208 Affair Healing Misunderstood
Tim and Sharon Tedder give personal insight into their response to recent criticism and defend the legitimacy of hope for healing after infidelity.
#207 The Cooperating Couple
Continuing in the Relationship Renewal strategy for couples who desire to work together in building a new marriage after infidelity, Tim Tedder explains the fourth stage of Cooperation in which couples form a cooperating partnership to work toward agreed goals.
#206 Affair Recovery & Faith
Tim Tedder interviews Christian author and sociologist, Dr. Jayne Swanson, who talks about four steps that lead toward living a full, abundant life after an affair.
#205 8 Affair Counseling Cautions
Counseling is often an important part of affair recovery, but not every counseling choice or experience is a good one. Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras, counselors who specialize in affair recovery issues, discuss eight important issues to consider when seeking therapy after infidelity.
#204 Needing To Ask About The Affair
After an affair, betrayed spouses often find themselves wanting to ask countless questions about the affair while the unfaithful spouse responds with resistance or anger. Counselors Tim and Sharon Tedder talk about each partner's role in recovery when it comes to questions and answers, offering specific strategies for couples to use to help them through this period of affair healing.
#203 Thank God for Wellbutrin
Counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Tedder discuss the potential benefits of prescription medication in helping in the affair healing process and consider reasons some people are hesitant to consider using them. This episode includes comments from listeners who share their experience with taking meds.
#202 Forgiving Infidelity
Counselors Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras talk about forgiveness following an affair. What is forgiveness? What is it not? What gets in the way of forgiving infidelity? What are steps to help you move toward forgiving an unfaithful partner? This episode also includes comments from listeners and a reading from The Hiding Place written by Corrie ten Boom.
#201 Hope for Change
Counselors Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder, and Jennifer Gingras discuss results from a recent affair survey asking about last year's experience compared to what's expected in the future.
Tim and Sharon Tedder discuss various issues to consider when healing from an affair means leaving the marriage.
#213 Crossing the Line: When Does Infidelity Begin?
Tim Tedder considers the line between fidelity and infidelity and examines two affair stories to gain insight into when and how the lines are crossed.
#212 Affair Recovery Myths
Counselors Tim and Sharon Tedder talk about 6 common affair recovery myths.
#211 Loveable
Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder, and Jennifer Gingras talk about affair healing issues of worthiness, shame, and grace in their discussion of the book Loveable by Kelly Flanagan.
#210 7 Things Your Betrayed Partner Wishes You Knew
Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder, and Jennifer Gingras discuss 7 truths about affair recovery that betrayed spouses wish their partners understood.
#209 A Reconnected Marriage
Tim Tedder explains the steps necessary for couples who, after an affair, want to experience intimacy and trust in their marriage again. He interviews Ryan and Jen who talk about their satisfying marriage seven years after Ryan confessed having multiple affairs. (Relationship Renewal Stage 5)
#208 Affair Healing Misunderstood
Tim and Sharon Tedder give personal insight into their response to recent criticism and defend the legitimacy of hope for healing after infidelity.
#207 The Cooperating Couple
Continuing in the Relationship Renewal strategy for couples who desire to work together in building a new marriage after infidelity, Tim Tedder explains the fourth stage of Cooperation in which couples form a cooperating partnership to work toward agreed goals.
#206 Affair Recovery & Faith
Tim Tedder interviews Christian author and sociologist, Dr. Jayne Swanson, who talks about four steps that lead toward living a full, abundant life after an affair.
#205 8 Affair Counseling Cautions
Counseling is often an important part of affair recovery, but not every counseling choice or experience is a good one. Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras, counselors who specialize in affair recovery issues, discuss eight important issues to consider when seeking therapy after infidelity.
#204 Needing To Ask About The Affair
After an affair, betrayed spouses often find themselves wanting to ask countless questions about the affair while the unfaithful spouse responds with resistance or anger. Counselors Tim and Sharon Tedder talk about each partner's role in recovery when it comes to questions and answers, offering specific strategies for couples to use to help them through this period of affair healing.
#203 Thank God for Wellbutrin
Counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Tedder discuss the potential benefits of prescription medication in helping in the affair healing process and consider reasons some people are hesitant to consider using them. This episode includes comments from listeners who share their experience with taking meds.
#202 Forgiving Infidelity
Counselors Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras talk about forgiveness following an affair. What is forgiveness? What is it not? What gets in the way of forgiving infidelity? What are steps to help you move toward forgiving an unfaithful partner? This episode also includes comments from listeners and a reading from The Hiding Place written by Corrie ten Boom.
#201 Hope for Change
Counselors Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder, and Jennifer Gingras discuss results from a recent affair survey asking about last year's experience compared to what's expected in the future.
#123 Handling the Holidays
Tim, Sharon, and Jennifer discuss the difficulties often experienced when trying to navigate holiday celebrations while recovering from the trauma of an affair. They also share advice from members of our Community forum.
#122 Healing Advice for Wounded Couples
Tim Tedder interviews Linda MacDonald, author of How To Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair. They discuss affair counseling and her advice for both partners after an affair.
#121 How Did She Really Feel About Her Affair Partner?
Tim & Sharon Tedder answer a caller's question about how his wife describes her feelings for the affair partner, and recommend a recovery resource for betrayed spouses.
#120 Affair Reaction and Clarity
Tim discusses stages 2 and 3 of relationship renewal after an affair: REACTION and CLARITY. He is joined by his wife and co-worker, Sharon, to further discuss some of the issues couples face during these stages. (Relationship Renewal Stage 2)
#119 Will I Ever Heal from the Affair?
Tim & Sharon Tedder read forum posts and comment on the question of whether a betrayed spouse might be permanently stuck or broken by the pain of betrayal.
#118 Affair Exposure
Tim introduces the five stages of relationship renewal after an affair and discusses the first stage of EXPOSURE, the uncovering of the affair. This program includes a discussion with his wife, Sharon, and stories that others tell about their experiences of affair discovery or disclosure. (Relationship Renewal Stage 1)
#117 Ease of Romance & Effort of Marriage
Tim & Sharon Tedder discuss a recent "event" in their marriage as they consider the effort required to build and maintain a satisfying relationship. They also talk about theatre acting and recommend a good book for betrayed partners.
#116 Best Reason for No Contact
Tim & Sharon discuss one woman's reason for ending all contact with her former affair partner. They also discuss Sharon's recent trip, an encouraging post in the Community forum, and the completion of Tim's affair recovery manual for betrayed spouses.
#115 Leaving an Unfaithful Partner
Tim & Sharon discuss the question of leaving an unfaithful spouse and recommend an episode of the Invisibilia podcast.
#114 Mark's Story: One Man's Account of His Affair
Originally written under the pseudonym of Mark, Tim Tedder wrote a detailed account of his affair experience. It became the most popular resource on AffairHealing.com. Now the story is offered in audio format, narrated by Tim.
#113 Affair Q&A
Tim & Sharon answer affair related questions submitted by listeners. This episode includes questions about staying healthy with a spouse who is openly cheating, how to deal with an affair partner, how to deal with the strong feelings of betrayal, what to think when you hear "I love you but I'm not in love with you and want something new," and considering the role of the brain in an affair attraction.
#112 He Said He Didn't Love Me Anymore
Tim Tedder interviews Robin, whose husband announced one day that he wanted a divorce. As she tells her story, we discuss finding out about an affair, Trickle Truth, snooping, forgiving, trusting, and change.
#111 Are Cheaters Broken People?
Tim & Sharon discuss whether infidelity reveals a cheater's fatal flaw or just a temporary crack and recommend an online resource for growth and recovery.
#110 Signs of Real Affair Recovery
Counselor Tim Tedder discusses what to look for when assessing whether or not there is healthy recovery in a marriage after an affair. He talks with one betrayed husband about his part in the recovery process.
#109 Needing Affair Closure
Tim & Sharon discuss a Community post from a betrayed wife who wants her husband to send a final message to the affair partner and recommend a book on boundaries.
#108 Reality vs Fantasy
Tim & Sharon discuss a Community post about the feeling of being in an affair and recommend a book on forgiveness.
#107 Children & Affairs
Tim talks with two of his children about the ways his affair affected them and their family. Bonus: "What Helped Caleb" audio clip not included in the podcast.
#105 One Couple's Healing Story
Tim Tedder talks to Tim & Lori about their journey of recovery from Lori's affair.
#104 The Ping-Pong Effect
Tim discusses the back-and-forth pattern of some unfaithful partners who cannot seem to choose between their spouse and the affair partner.
#103 Dealing with Anger After an Affair
Tim considers ways in which the anger that follows affair discovery can eventually be controlled and processed so that it leads to a rebuilding of the relationship rather than tearing it down.
podcasts 1&2
Due to the poor quality of these early podcasts, they were re-recorded and posted in Podcast 110: Signs of Real Affair Recovery
Tim, Sharon, and Jennifer discuss the difficulties often experienced when trying to navigate holiday celebrations while recovering from the trauma of an affair. They also share advice from members of our Community forum.
#122 Healing Advice for Wounded Couples
Tim Tedder interviews Linda MacDonald, author of How To Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair. They discuss affair counseling and her advice for both partners after an affair.
#121 How Did She Really Feel About Her Affair Partner?
Tim & Sharon Tedder answer a caller's question about how his wife describes her feelings for the affair partner, and recommend a recovery resource for betrayed spouses.
#120 Affair Reaction and Clarity
Tim discusses stages 2 and 3 of relationship renewal after an affair: REACTION and CLARITY. He is joined by his wife and co-worker, Sharon, to further discuss some of the issues couples face during these stages. (Relationship Renewal Stage 2)
#119 Will I Ever Heal from the Affair?
Tim & Sharon Tedder read forum posts and comment on the question of whether a betrayed spouse might be permanently stuck or broken by the pain of betrayal.
#118 Affair Exposure
Tim introduces the five stages of relationship renewal after an affair and discusses the first stage of EXPOSURE, the uncovering of the affair. This program includes a discussion with his wife, Sharon, and stories that others tell about their experiences of affair discovery or disclosure. (Relationship Renewal Stage 1)
#117 Ease of Romance & Effort of Marriage
Tim & Sharon Tedder discuss a recent "event" in their marriage as they consider the effort required to build and maintain a satisfying relationship. They also talk about theatre acting and recommend a good book for betrayed partners.
#116 Best Reason for No Contact
Tim & Sharon discuss one woman's reason for ending all contact with her former affair partner. They also discuss Sharon's recent trip, an encouraging post in the Community forum, and the completion of Tim's affair recovery manual for betrayed spouses.
#115 Leaving an Unfaithful Partner
Tim & Sharon discuss the question of leaving an unfaithful spouse and recommend an episode of the Invisibilia podcast.
#114 Mark's Story: One Man's Account of His Affair
Originally written under the pseudonym of Mark, Tim Tedder wrote a detailed account of his affair experience. It became the most popular resource on AffairHealing.com. Now the story is offered in audio format, narrated by Tim.
#113 Affair Q&A
Tim & Sharon answer affair related questions submitted by listeners. This episode includes questions about staying healthy with a spouse who is openly cheating, how to deal with an affair partner, how to deal with the strong feelings of betrayal, what to think when you hear "I love you but I'm not in love with you and want something new," and considering the role of the brain in an affair attraction.
#112 He Said He Didn't Love Me Anymore
Tim Tedder interviews Robin, whose husband announced one day that he wanted a divorce. As she tells her story, we discuss finding out about an affair, Trickle Truth, snooping, forgiving, trusting, and change.
#111 Are Cheaters Broken People?
Tim & Sharon discuss whether infidelity reveals a cheater's fatal flaw or just a temporary crack and recommend an online resource for growth and recovery.
#110 Signs of Real Affair Recovery
Counselor Tim Tedder discusses what to look for when assessing whether or not there is healthy recovery in a marriage after an affair. He talks with one betrayed husband about his part in the recovery process.
#109 Needing Affair Closure
Tim & Sharon discuss a Community post from a betrayed wife who wants her husband to send a final message to the affair partner and recommend a book on boundaries.
#108 Reality vs Fantasy
Tim & Sharon discuss a Community post about the feeling of being in an affair and recommend a book on forgiveness.
#107 Children & Affairs
Tim talks with two of his children about the ways his affair affected them and their family. Bonus: "What Helped Caleb" audio clip not included in the podcast.
#105 One Couple's Healing Story
Tim Tedder talks to Tim & Lori about their journey of recovery from Lori's affair.
#104 The Ping-Pong Effect
Tim discusses the back-and-forth pattern of some unfaithful partners who cannot seem to choose between their spouse and the affair partner.
#103 Dealing with Anger After an Affair
Tim considers ways in which the anger that follows affair discovery can eventually be controlled and processed so that it leads to a rebuilding of the relationship rather than tearing it down.
podcasts 1&2
Due to the poor quality of these early podcasts, they were re-recorded and posted in Podcast 110: Signs of Real Affair Recovery
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