So much damage has been done. Is my life ruined?

. Whether you can believe it or not, there is grace for you. Here’s my definition of grace: Taking a wrong …

Review: Forgiving What You Can’t Forget

decide what you do with your memories. Your life can be a graceful combination of beautiful and …

The Sandwich Truce

cried. But they also packed lunch for each other. Sometimes, grace can be offered between slices of …

Review: Leave A Cheater Gain A Life

be taking a much stronger stand for their own well-being, but there is a way to balance grace and … spouses should just roll over with an “It’s okay, I still love you attitude.” Real grace will still … outcome, but it is a true one. Disagreement #3: Leave no room for grace. From the author: “This is what … establish real boundaries. Grace is not the same thing as trust. Some cheaters should never be … trust can be granted too quickly and easily. But I want to live in a world that values grace and makes …

Completed Forgiveness

forgive. There is a place for justice. Some people are so aware of their own need for grace and … truly deserved, they'd be in a mess of trouble. But they receive something better instead – grace and … out of the grace that has been given to you, you completely release your spouse. I hesitate to …

Guard Your Heart After It’s Been Betrayed

supported her desire to offer him grace. I encouraged her to invite him to a recovery process and then …

Is It Affair Fog or Real Love?

. Grace still meets us on the far side of brokenness. Healing doesn’t erase the past, but it can shape a …

Signs of a Real Affair Confession

understandable. Be smart. Be watchful. But hold on to a bit of grace, too. 2. Don’t do this alone. For …

Lori and Tim’s Story

that. Tim, what was the process of your change from anger to grace? Tim: On September 23rd last year, I … , until they saw him extend grace. Tim, talk about the place you got stuck in for a while. Would you … .” It was the most freeing conversation. That grace brought peace, and we started down a road of …

Jen and Ryan’s Story: Healing After Multiple Affairs

choice for them), you have decided to take your story of healing and grace and share it with others. You … needed grace just as much as he did because of some ways I reacted in the process. There was nothing Ryan … nearly a decade. Through this process, I've re-experienced God's grace. Embracing the grace and … God to extend grace and forgiveness to me. Even to this day, I can still struggle at times with …

Tim’s Story: A Betrayer’s Perspective

, in their mother, in my family and friends. Grace covers a multitude of sins. … that I couldn't provide myself. I needed grace. Fortunately, I finally found it... in my children … angry. I did not deserve grace or forgiveness from her, but I wished for it. A deep part of me … victims. Authenticity and Grace I've learned that I need to ask myself an important question: Am I … value. The pain of the affair and divorce will never completely disappear, but grace can cover so …

Sheri’s Story

prayed, and experienced forgiveness and grace, but I still felt like a fraud. If anyone knew what …

The Gift of a Second Chance

strength and grace. Your commitment to me and to our marriage is a precious gift I will never lose …

Emma’s Story: An Unfaithful Wife’s Affair Apology Letter

grace. I realize how incredibly lucky I am to have you, and I want you to know I see and appreciate how …

Dealing with an Uncertain or Uncooperative Partner

Partner I've known many betrayed spouses who, out of tremendous strength, offer grace to an unfaithful …

Reclaiming Intimacy After Infidelity

go of judgement and embrace grace. Let me be a bit more practical by suggesting three things you can …

Two Betrayers Talk about Their Affairs

going to be a twinge of pain, but grace allows even that pain to be a part of our story. It says … and, in some ways, deeper. You know, the way grace works in a relationship and in our lives is …

Robin’s Story

was a man who believed he wasn’t deserving of forgiveness or grace. He knew his infidelity was a …

14 Steps of Affair Recovery for the Unfaithful Partner

, or if you cannot trust them, or if they are more likely to offer you shame than grace, then don’t …