Making Change That Lasts
When lasting change feels impossible, your deepest motivation holds the key.
Truth In Pieces Feels Like a Lie
Trickle truth happens when the full truth isn’t told upfront. Instead, it leaks out slowly over time. This article considers why it happens, and how it hinders affair recovery.
Penitence Without Pardon
The healing work of forgiveness is blocked when the injured partner refuses to let the offender off the hook.
Completed Forgiveness
A consideration of completed forgiveness that includes both cognitive and emotional resolutions.
Decisional Forgiveness
Can we choose to forgive even if the offender hasn’t taken responsibility or asked for forgiveness?
Bartered Forgiveness
Forgiveness offered with conditions isn’t effective because it isn’t real forgiveness.
Fake Forgiveness
An explanation of fake forgiveness: what it is and why it hinders relationship healing.
Looking For Forgiveness
Many of the clients I work with struggle with forgiveness. Forgiveness does not come easily to most of us; we have to find our way to it. This article will guide you toward the kind of forgiveness that brings freedom and new beginnings.
Does Telling the Truth Help or Harm?
Getting the truth about an affair is essential for healing, but it also becomes a source of endless agony for many who have been betrayed. So, what truth helps? What truth harms?
When Does It Become Cheating?
When does your involvement in another friendship become “cheating” on your spouse?
Will These Tears Ever Stop?
One story of recovery following her husband's confession of multiple affairs, one of which resulted in pregnancy.
If Your Marriage Dies, Don't Pitch Your Tent In The Cemetery
How do you move through the grief of a lost marriage that ends in divorce?
Is The Affair Partner Better Than Me?
A betrayed wife conressed her struggle with comparing herself to the affair partner, and losing the comparison most often. Another woman posted this insightful reply.
Should Accountability Be Required After an Affair?
Following an affair, should the involved partner be required to be accountable in their ongoing behaviors?
Guard Your Heart After It’s Been Betrayed
Your partner’s betrayal has probably caused more profound pain than any hurt you’ve experienced. You want it to be over. But if you are not careful, you risk being repeatedly wounded.
Dealing with an Uncertain or Uncooperative Partner
Do you think you might lose your spouse or partner because of an affair? This article will help you determine the best course for encouraging your growth and your and your partner’s return.