Working Together to Rebuild Your Marriage After an Affair
The cooperative effort required by both partners to rebuild a relationship after infidelity.
Understanding an Affair - What Happened? Why Did It Happen? What’s Next?
After an affair, the importance of gaining clarity regarding what happened, why it happened, and what choices you will make next.
Affair Reaction: Agony, Chaos, and Confusion
What to expect and how to manage affair reaction and chaos that follows the exposure of infidelity.
The Pain of Exposing an Affair
How affairs are exposed and how it affects recovery for couples who choose to heal their relationship
Obsessive Focus After Betrayal: Breaking Free from Intrusive Thoughts
Eight strategies to help win the battle over intrusive thoughts about an affair.
14 Steps of Affair Recovery for the Betrayed Partner
14 steps of affair recovery for the betrayed spouse following a partner's infidelity, providing practical help for healing after betrayal.
When Is It Time to Stop Talking About the Affair?
Is there a time to stop talking about the affair? Consider ways to reduce conversations about a partner’s affair.
I Feel Like I’m Married to a Single Man
A woman struggles with her husband’s apparent disconnetion in their marriage after his affair.
Is It Affair Fog or Real Love?
Article & Song: Is it affair fog or real love? Can you effectively argue that point with someone who’s caught up in the feelings of limerence?
Signs of a Real Affair Confession
How can you tell if a an affair confessio is real? How can you believe someone who has betrayed you and lied to you?
Making Change That Lasts
When lasting change feels impossible, your deepest motivation holds the key.
Truth In Pieces Feels Like a Lie
Trickle truth happens when the full truth isn’t told upfront. Instead, it leaks out slowly over time. This article considers why it happens, and how it hinders affair recovery.
Penitence Without Pardon
The healing work of forgiveness is blocked when the injured partner refuses to let the offender off the hook.
Completed Forgiveness
A consideration of completed forgiveness that includes both cognitive and emotional resolutions.
Decisional Forgiveness
Can we choose to forgive even if the offender hasn’t taken responsibility or asked for forgiveness?
Bartered Forgiveness
Forgiveness offered with conditions isn’t effective because it isn’t real forgiveness.
Fake Forgiveness
An explanation of fake forgiveness: what it is and why it hinders relationship healing.
Looking For Forgiveness
Many of the clients I work with struggle with forgiveness. Forgiveness does not come easily to most of us; we have to find our way to it. This article will guide you toward the kind of forgiveness that brings freedom and new beginnings.