14 Steps of Affair Recovery for the Betrayed Partner
14 steps of affair recovery for the betrayed spouse following a partner's infidelity, providing practical help for healing after betrayal.
When Is It Time to Stop Talking About the Affair?
Is there a time to stop talking about the affair? Consider ways to reduce conversations about a partner’s affair.
I Feel Like I’m Married to a Single Man
A woman struggles with her husband’s apparent disconnetion in their marriage after his affair.
Is It Affair Fog or Real Love?
Article & Song: Is it affair fog or real love? Can you effectively argue that point with someone who’s caught up in the feelings of limerence?
The Cost to Repair a Marriage After an Affair
Repairing your marriage after your affair may be the hardest thing you’ll ever do, but the payoff is worth it.
Signs of a Real Affair Confession
How can you tell if a an affair confessio is real? How can you believe someone who has betrayed you and lied to you?
Making Change That Lasts
When lasting change feels impossible, your deepest motivation holds the key.
The Word After “Sorry” Makes or Breaks Your Apology
Saying “I’m sorry” can be one of the most vulnerable, courageous things you do in a relationship. Too many apologies fall flat because of the word that came next.
Truth In Pieces Feels Like a Lie
Trickle truth happens when the full truth isn’t told upfront. Instead, it leaks out slowly over time. This article considers why it happens, and how it hinders affair recovery.
Penitence Without Pardon
The healing work of forgiveness is blocked when the injured partner refuses to let the offender off the hook.
Selfish Apologies
Forgiveness is hindered when an apology is offered to provide relief for the offender rather than the one who was hurt.
Completed Forgiveness
A consideration of completed forgiveness that includes both cognitive and emotional resolutions.
Decisional Forgiveness
Can we choose to forgive even if the offender hasn’t taken responsibility or asked for forgiveness?
Bartered Forgiveness
Forgiveness offered with conditions isn’t effective because it isn’t real forgiveness.
Fake Forgiveness
An explanation of fake forgiveness: what it is and why it hinders relationship healing.
Looking For Forgiveness
Many of the clients I work with struggle with forgiveness. Forgiveness does not come easily to most of us; we have to find our way to it. This article will guide you toward the kind of forgiveness that brings freedom and new beginnings.
Is It Too Soon for Couples Counseling After the Affair?
“We need counseling.”
That’s often the first response from couples in the wake of an affair. The betrayal has just come to light, emotions are raw, and both partners are overwhelmed. Reaching out for help is a healthy instinct — but jumping into couples counseling too soon can sometimes do more harm than good.
Why I Do What I Do
It’s natural to run from pain. So why do I step into it every day? Why have I spent years walking alongside people who feel more hurt than hope, who rage against the betrayal that broke their dreams, who cling to a fragile thread of possibility?
Does Telling the Truth Help or Harm?
Getting the truth about an affair is essential for healing, but it also becomes a source of endless agony for many who have been betrayed. So, what truth helps? What truth harms?