When lasting change feels impossible, your deepest motivation holds the key.

Saying “I’m sorry” can be one of the most vulnerable, courageous things you do in a relationship. Too many apologies fall flat because of the word that came next.

Trickle truth happens when the full truth isn’t told upfront. Instead, it leaks out slowly over time. This article considers why it happens, and how it hinders affair recovery.

The healing work of forgiveness is blocked when the injured partner refuses to let the offender off the hook.

Forgiveness is hindered when an apology is offered to provide relief for the offender rather than the one who was hurt.

A consideration of completed forgiveness that includes both cognitive and emotional resolutions.

Can we choose to forgive even if the offender hasn’t taken responsibility or asked for forgiveness?

Forgiveness offered with conditions isn’t effective because it isn’t real forgiveness.

An explanation of fake forgiveness: what it is and why it hinders relationship healing.

Reasons why forgiveness that is offered prematurely is ineffective.

Many of the clients I work with struggle with forgiveness. Forgiveness does not come easily to most of us; we have to find our way to it. This article will guide you toward the kind of forgiveness that brings freedom and new beginnings.

“We need counseling.”

That’s often the first response from couples in the wake of an affair. The betrayal has just come to light, emotions are raw, and both partners are overwhelmed. Reaching out for help is a healthy instinct — but jumping into couples counseling too soon can sometimes do more harm than good.

It’s natural to run from pain. So why do I step into it every day? Why have I spent years walking alongside people who feel more hurt than hope, who rage against the betrayal that broke their dreams, who cling to a fragile thread of possibility?

Getting the truth about an affair is essential for healing, but it also becomes a source of endless agony for many who have been betrayed. So, what truth helps? What truth harms?

I never believed I could survive telling the truth, that you would survive hearing it, that we could survive its aftermath, or that you would even be willing to offer me the chance.

You should avoid the "this isn't real love" debate with anyone claiming to have an emotional connection to their affair partner. Here's why..

How can couples enjoy sexual intimacy again after one of them has had an affair?

When does your involvement in another friendship become “cheating” on your spouse?

One story of recovery following her husband's confession of multiple affairs, one of which resulted in pregnancy.

How do you move through the grief of a lost marriage that ends in divorce?