Will I ever be able to trust my spouse again?
The rebuilding of trust takes time. Your spouse broke a promise to you and inflicted a deep wound. He/she needs to repay the damage by exerting great effort in earning back your trust. At first, you'll probably suspect and question every little thing, but in time, if they continue to live openly and honestly, you'll find a growing list of items that are of no real concern to you anymore.
It's likely that you'll always have a new sensitivity to potential "red flags" in your spouse's behavior. That's not a bad thing. But if your spouse continues to remain open, transparent, and accountable, you'll eventually learn to trust again.
Is there a risk in choosing to work on restoring your marriage? Yes. Could you be hurt again? Yes. Whether or not you should take that risk is a question only you can answer. In some cases, I would counsel a client NOT to take that risk. But in many cases the willingness to be vulnerable enough to work on reconciliation is a choice that is born out of strength, not weakness.
I posted an article/video/study guide that may be helpful. I encourage you to look at it here: The Necessity of Vulnerability.
It's likely that you'll always have a new sensitivity to potential "red flags" in your spouse's behavior. That's not a bad thing. But if your spouse continues to remain open, transparent, and accountable, you'll eventually learn to trust again.
Is there a risk in choosing to work on restoring your marriage? Yes. Could you be hurt again? Yes. Whether or not you should take that risk is a question only you can answer. In some cases, I would counsel a client NOT to take that risk. But in many cases the willingness to be vulnerable enough to work on reconciliation is a choice that is born out of strength, not weakness.
I posted an article/video/study guide that may be helpful. I encourage you to look at it here: The Necessity of Vulnerability.
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