Retreat Questions & Answers
How much do these retreat session cost?
- 3-Day Weekend Retreat: Retreat sessions are held at the Renewal Counseling offices in Carmel, Indiana at a cost of $2750 per couple for a 3-Day Retreat.
- Weekday Retreats: Couples within driving distance to our office may opt for a 1, 2 or 3-Day Retreat (usually 4-6 hours each day) scheduled any day Tuesday through Friday. A series of 1-Day Retreats, with 1-2 weeks in between each one, is a good option for couples within driving distance of our office. Weekday retreat sessions are provided at regular hourly rates.
What does that include?
- The 3-Day Retreat includes: retreat preparation assessments and materials; 16 retreat session hours, follow-up resources and a follow-up sessions (phone/video) to be used within 30 days following the retreat.
- The Weekday Retreats include: preparation assessments and materials; variable session hours, depending on need; assigned exercises & resources to be used between retreat days.
How are "retreat session hours" determined?
Any active session, regardless of how many counselors or clients are participating in that session, is included in the retreat hours total. Examples:
- If two therapists are sitting in on a one-hour session with both partners together, it would count as 1 retreat session hour.
- If an hour is spent with two therapists leading two separate sessions (each with one of the partners), that would count as 2 retreat session hours. Retreats are a mix of joint and individual sessions and sometimes more than one therapist is involved.
What will be our focus during the retreat?
Because each retreat is customized to fit the needs of the couple, no two retreats are exactly the same. However, the general focus of a retreat will depend on whether both partners are "leaning into" the marriage (both committed to working toward renewed intimacy and trust) or if at least one partner is "leaning out" of the marriage (not certain whether or not they want to stay with their spouse).
- If both partners are "leaning in," then the focus of the retreat is on dealing with unresolved affair issues and defining changes and strategies necessary for building a new marriage.
- If at least one partner is "leaning out," the the focus is on repairing wounds caused by the affair, defining each partner's decision regarding their future, enhancing each person's recognition for personal change, and establishing strategies toward moving forward in healthy ways. Some couples will clarify their clear intent to stay together and learn how to start the work of marriage renewal. For others, the focus will shift to ending a marriage in ways that protect from ongoing damage and encourage mutual cooperation.
What about travel & accommodations?
What's the typical 3-Day Retreat schedule like?
- 1st Day: 3:00 - 7:00 PM
- 2nd Day: 9:00 AM - 6:00 PM (1 hr lunch break)
- 3rd Day: 9:00 AM - 1:00 PM
- Schedules can sometimes be adjusted to accommodate your scheduling need. Also, if multiple counselors are involved, more hours can be fit into less time on a particular day.
I'm interested in scheduling a Couples Retreat. What do I do?
As long as both partners are willing to attend and participate, each should fill out an application. (See link at bottom of the page.) There is no application fee. Once both application forms have been submitted, Tim Tedder will review them and then get back to you regarding his recommendations (usually within 1-2 days) as well as what upcoming dates are available. Your retreat will be considered confirmed once the deposit is received.
How much is the deposit? Is it refundable?
We request a deposit ($900 for a 3-day retreat; $300 for a 1-day retreat).
- Deposit Refunds for Weekend Retreats: The deposit will be completely refunded if cancelled or rescheduled more than 4 weeks prior to the originally scheduled start date; 50% refunded 1-4 weeks prior to the start date; and no refunds with less than 1-week notification.
- Deposit Refunds for Weekday Retreats: The deposit will be completely refunded if cancelled or rescheduled more than 1 week prior to the originally scheduled start date; 50% refunded if less than 1 week prior to the start date; and no refunds with notifications less than 48-hours from the scheduled start of your retreat.
Do you accept insurance? Will my insurance reimburse me for my retreat costs?
We do not bill insurance. You would need to check with your insurance company to see how they would handle reimbursement for out-of-network counseling (with a licensed counselor). Most providers will not pay for extended sessions, like a retreat, but you can certainly check to find out for sure. Upon request, we can issue you a medical receipt but the cost for services on that receipt may be lower than your actual cost because some practice fees cannot be submitted to insurance companies. You may end up with a medical receipt that reflects a cost that is lower than the retreat fee, and insurance providers will likely reimburse only a part of that (or offer no reimbursement at all).
Are the other counselors involved in the retreats?
Tim Tedder always facilitates the primary counseling in a retreat. Sharon Tedder is also usually involved in the process, especially if EMDR therapy is recommended. If either is involved in individual sessions to address specific issues, those sessions will be considered as retreat hours. If you want to guarantee Sharon's participation in the retreat, be sure to write your request on the application, but be aware that it may limit what retreat dates will be available. [See more info about our retreat counselors.]
What if we want extra hours?
Extra hours, if requested, will be billed at the hourly rate for weekday retreats (see answer to first question).
What about accommodations for meals and sleep?
You are responsible to make your own hotel arrangements for one of the many establishments close to our office (Carmel, 46032). We will provide you with information regarding restaurants near our facility. Many options are available to fit your budget.
Either contact us and we'll be glad to help you out.
Either contact us and we'll be glad to help you out.