Introduction
Couples or Individuals
The benefits of this course are optimized if your partner also works through the Truth Talk: Asking Questions course, which provides specific instructions for their part of the truth-telling process. Whether or not your partner takes that course, this course will still guide you in the process of telling the truth about your infidelity.
Spouses Who Still Have Some Hope for Their Marriage
If you or your partner has already determined to leave your marriage/relationship, do not take this course. This course will require both of you to enter into a vulnerable conversation. Neither partner should take that risk if the decision has already been made (by either one) to leave.
Unfaithful Partners Who Need to Give Answers
Ideally, you're finding this course soon after your partner learned of your infidelity. If so, it will help you avoid some of the common pitfalls that many fall into.
But even if you are well past the exposure of the affair (or infidelity), this course may still be helpful if the questions-and-answers process has been irregular or conflicted, leaving your partner feeling like they have questions that still need to be resolved. If the affair exposure was not recent, it is especially recommended that your partner take the Truth Talk: Asking Questions course, which complements this one.
What this Course Will and Will Not Do
Let me tell you what this course will and will not do.
Let's start with what it will do:
It will provide structure to the process of disclosing the truth about your affair. It will help you be more intentional about how you tell the truth.
It will help you and your partner learn what’s necessary to make informed decisions, whether in or out of your marriage.
If your Q&A process has become a series of conflicts, the suspicions and defensiveness of all parties likely create a block to transparency and trust. This course will help you both move toward a more productive conversation, especially if your partner takes their version of this course.
Here's what this course will not do.
It will not guarantee that your spouse/partner will accept your answers. Even if you are 100% honest, your partner may still choose to embrace doubt.
It will not save your marriage at any cost. If you and your partner share the common goal of healing your marriage, this course will help you do that! But neither you nor I can control your partner's choices, and this course cannot guarantee anyone's "good behavior."
What About Counseling?
I designed this course for couples who aren’t currently in therapy and need guidance through the complex, emotional process of truth-telling, and for therapists who want to give their clients a proven resource. You’ll get the same tools and strategies I use in my counseling practice, adapted for an online format you can work through at your own pace.
If you’d like more personal support, you can schedule coaching sessions with me, Tim Tedder, or with our experienced coach, Jennifer Gingras. Together, we’ve helped countless clients navigate this difficult journey toward clarity and healing.