Truth Talk: Giving Answers
You’re caught in one of the hardest places an unfaithful partner can be—torn between wanting the spotlight of infidelity to fade and facing your partner’s relentless need for answers. Say too little, and the questions never end. Say too much, and the details can cut even deeper. It can feel like there’s no way forward.
That’s where this course comes in. Truth Talk: Giving Answers will guide you in preparing for a conversation that brings clarity instead of chaos. You’ll learn how to answer questions honestly and thoughtfully, provide the comfort and assurance your partner needs most, and take steps that move both of you toward real healing and change.
This course can be taken on its own, or paired with its companion course—Truth Talk: Asking Questions—for your partner.
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A Message from Tim Tedder
In this video, Tim Tedder prepares you for what’s ahead and offers encouragement for making intentional choices in telling the truth about your affair.
In this video, Tim Tedder prepares you for what’s ahead and offers encouragement for making intentional choices in telling the truth about your affair.
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An explanation of who will benefit from taking this course.
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eBook: A Couples Guide
Download the 66-page eBook (PDF), Affair Healing: A Recovery Guide for Couples.
Download the 66-page eBook (PDF), Affair Healing: A Recovery Guide for Couples.
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A list of five things you’re encouraged to do now, at the start of the process.
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Your Partner Needs Answers
Read how one betrayed spouse explained why answers were important to him.
Read how one betrayed spouse explained why answers were important to him.
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Setting Expecations
How can you help set positive expectations for the Truth Talk? What can you do to give your partner assurance that you’re committed to truthfulness?
How can you help set positive expectations for the Truth Talk? What can you do to give your partner assurance that you’re committed to truthfulness?
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Guide: Truth Talk Prep
Guidelines to use in preparing for and conducting a Truth Talk with your partner.
Guidelines to use in preparing for and conducting a Truth Talk with your partner.
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Evidence of Honesty
What will your partner look for as indications that you are being truthful in the answers you give?
What will your partner look for as indications that you are being truthful in the answers you give?
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Tim, Sharon, and Jennifer discuss a person’s memories about their affair.
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More Than 1 Affair
Tim and Jennifer discuss having Truth Talk when there have been multiple affairs.
Tim and Jennifer discuss having Truth Talk when there have been multiple affairs.
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If you are in counseling...
Considerations for integrating this course with your counseling experience.
Considerations for integrating this course with your counseling experience.
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Before proceding, make sure certain prerequisits are in place.
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Guide: Your Truth Talk Outline
A complete guide to follow for each step of the Truth Talk encounter.
A complete guide to follow for each step of the Truth Talk encounter.
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Tim’s encouragement for your part in the Truth Talk conversation.
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Your Response After the Talk
Consider how you will respond to your partner based on their response to your answers.
Consider how you will respond to your partner based on their response to your answers.
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What is your partner’s level of confidence in the truthfulness of your responses?
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Dealing with Ongoing Questions
How should you handle questions that come up after you’ve had a Truth Talk?
How should you handle questions that come up after you’ve had a Truth Talk?
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How to plan for better outcomes in future conversations about the affair.
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If you are in counseling...
Considerations for integrating this course with your counseling experience.
Considerations for integrating this course with your counseling experience.
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Flip Journaling
Suggestions for an alternative approach to journaling that can help regulate obsessive thinking.
Suggestions for an alternative approach to journaling that can help regulate obsessive thinking.
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Exercise: Your Next Steps
An exercise to encourage a recognition of your progress, and a consideration of what your next steps will be.
An exercise to encourage a recognition of your progress, and a consideration of what your next steps will be.
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THE TRUTH MATTERS
For many couples, the truth about an affair can feel more like an explosion than a step toward healing.
You can’t control the whole process, but your part matters deeply. In this course, you’ll learn how to prepare for honest, courageous conversations—ones that can open the door to healing for you and your relationship, no matter what path you ultimately choose.
