Use your past infidelity to become the person your partner needs.

I’m about to shift gears to focus primarily on the needs of the unfaithful partner. If that’s you, I’d love to update you when things are ready. (If it’s not you, share this page with someone else.)

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What is RENOVATE?

The RENOVATE Project is a program focused on helping unfaithful partners use their past infidelity to become the person their partner needs. At its center is the NOVA process:

  • N – Name the Truth
    Give an honest account of what has been hidden.

  • O – Own Your Story
    Take responsibility without shame by understanding what has shaped you, inside and out.

  • V – Visualize Who You’ll Become.
    Clearly define a vision of change for yourself and your relationships.

  • A – Act with Authenticity
    Rebuild trust and intimacy with a new kind of openness.

We fail. We learn. We change. We grow.

After more than two decades helping individuals and couples heal in the aftermath of infidelity, I’m shifting my personal focus toward those who have broken trust in their relationship. This isn’t just a professional transition, it’s a deeply personal one. Because your story is, in many ways, my own.

Following my affair, I wrestled with shame and the fear that I might never be trusted again, or if anyone would really be satisfied in a relationship with me. I felt like damaged goods. But out of that painful season came the most profound growth of my life.

Now, I want to help you find that same possibility. Beneath all the hurt, shame, and confusion lies a remarkable opportunity—to renovate yourself into someone even more trustworthy, grounded, and capable of love than you were before.

—Tim Tedder, LMHC