Survey Results: "When you think about love, what do you hope for most in 2017?"
This question was asked as part of a survey discussed on podcast #201: Hope for Change. Here are answers submitted by participants (which reflect their opinions, not necessarily ours).
- To find it.
- That I finally learn to love myself regardless of outcome.
- I am all love towards my wife and mother of my kids. I am learning to love unconditionally with no expectation as she continues her MLC.
- To show real sorrow and regret for my past indiscretion. To earn trust and to demonstrate tangible actions of love
- For peace, contentment, gratitude. To not fill the void outside of myself.
- Many more days of loving this man and feeling his love for me. I can truly say we are in a better marriage together.
- Currently I have little hope, especially about love. Deep down I won t let myself believe that love is really real. I so have that dream of closeness, togetherness and 'feelings' I once thought I had with my WS....but.... don't see our ever happening for me again.
- To love myself and be confident in myself. To have a happy and peaceful household.
- My biggest hope is that my son always feels loved by both his father and me, even though we're not together. We split up a year ago and I no longer hold hope of getting back together. Nor am I actively looking for a new relationship. If I do find love, it will be with someone who can also love my son and accept that his father and I will always have a co-parenting relationship.
- Love never ended, I hope and am confident that it never will. It's just how it's shared, respected and expressed between us.
- Love to rekindle with my spouse and the familial love to regenerate with my spouse and our children.
- That somehow we can try and move above it without it still surfacing.
- Love is a choice, not a feeling. My hope for 2017 is to build new relationships
- To be able to trust and let go of the future plans I thought I had have it again.
- That all of our hard work will continue to bring us to a better place - a deeper understanding and a deeper love.
- That I can keep love alive while waiting for WS to change. That I won't lose hope or rugsweep.
- I just hope for a new beginning where we can move forward with joy and not hold on to the past with rage.
- To start feeling connected to my husband again and to restore trust.
- That God leads and guides us in our thoughts and conversations.
- Improved self love within both of us to improve out marriage. We both need to move closer to interdependence, but from opposite sides of the spectrum (he needs to be more discerning of others' intentions & I need to learn to be more vulnerable).
- To be happy, to have some trust.
- Learn how to love myself first.
- Renewed relationship of trust and commitment with my husband.
- That he will continue to attend church for himself, for us, as a family. Get closer to God and pray more. If he loves us, he will do this for his family.
- To continue to heal our relationship.
- I want to be open to new love and hope I will be able leave trust issues behind with my soon to be ex.
- That my husband will return home.
- To find someone with integrity, honesty, emotional connection and courage.
- Honesty
- To have someone that loves me for who I am and always looks for the good in our relationship.
- That I can get pass the affair and be able to love her again.
- The continuation of rebuilding our connection and trust.
- To figure out what that means to us as a unique couple independent of societal expectations or preconceived ideas.
- I hope that my husband will try a little harder at having a deeper connection. I hope that we will learn to communicate better and that we can both learn that we equally need to change, in order to make our marriage work.
- Trust, rebuilding, connection, conversation, commitment.
- I hope to be able to trust again and not be afraid to truly love someone.
- Reconnecting with my partner once again.
- That the lifelong love I have had for my spouse will enable me to overcome the doubts and lack of trust that I still have about her as a result of previous EMAs.
- A new way to connect to the word that doesn't trigger the affair, his lies, or his detachment. I hope to better understand real grown up love-not just the version sold in movies, music, and novels. I'd really like to not feel like I am waiting for him to figure his own stuff out in order for me to be secure and safe in partnership with him.
- That I can feel love for him like I once did.
- That I experience it someday for real.
- That my ex wife realizes that she is responsible for her "happiness" to stop her devastating pattern of infidelity. I hope someday she will be at peace with whatever is inside her head that causes her so much pain.
- That I will come to know the fullness of God's love for me. I also pray this for my spouse- I believe that the truth of his love will enable us to love each other more!
- For spouse to be honest, truly repent, see his need for his own and marriage counseling, and for him to care more for me than he does for his own image.
- That he will heal from past hurts, and learn to truly open his heart to his Savior, myself, and our son. That he will learn to love and trust completely instead of keeping up a wall to protect himself.
- Deepening renewed commitment.
- That I have a better understanding of how my husband defines his love for me - what the love he swears he has for me holds him to, and what it doesn't hold him to when no one is looking.
- Complete trust, like I use to.
- Hope he is back.
- Reconnect with my partner emotionally and physically. Building trust and feeling safe and secure that he will not stray ever again. Honestly, loyalty, trust and embracing our love.
- Honesty.
- I'm not sure anymore. I just know I want to keep my family together. That is what keeps me going and what I hope for.
- To be loved like never before to feel safe and secure with the love of my life my husband and to stop hurting I want love to override the pain of my broken heart.
- A chance to build better than before.
- Love myself.
- I hope to know somebody better than him.
- Renewed intimacy, affection, happiness and joy in my marriage.
- That I will meet someone else and be able to trust again....
- Reconnect with my wife.
- A healed and restored heart.
- Closure.
- I hope to better myself as a person, so I can move on. I hope he finds himself but learns to put his kids first in his life.
- Contentment and independence
- Release. Release to love or leave.
- I hope that I can find love again.
- I hope that the love my wife has for me allows her to for give me.
- A deeper connection, fun and laughter again. Openness and honesty. But I'm not sure it'll happen. So I will forgive and let go, and know that I will be ok
- For her to change and do the things she needs to do to make me see and feel she is truly sorry for what she has done to me. So far this has not happen and does not look like its going to.No remorse understanding of what she has done period.
- To better appreciate the love of those around me.
- That the love I've found with someone very special continues to grow and that we find new ways to connect on all levels with each other.
- I would LOVE to punish those involved.
- I just want my spouse to see that I'm a different person and see all the things I am doing to try to rebuild trust. I know that this is a "rest of my life" project, but to be with him, it's worth it.
- Commitment.
- Many things, but I guess the thing I hope for most is the two of us moving together toward similar goals and priorities.
- Feeling that my spouse has learned to love himself in a clear, healthy way.
- That I can forgive and move on and be happy.
- To feel it and trust it.
- Deep connection and understanding
- I hope that my husband can see the mistakes he has made and make the changes needed to restore love within our marriage.
- Balance and understanding in our approach to each other's needs.
- I am still with my partner who had an affair in 2015. If I think about love for 2017 I hope for a man to cross my path who genuinely loves me as I now feel my partner would never of had an affair if I meant that much to him. I hope 2017 brings me true love.
- Gods love.
- That I can forget about my cheating exspouse and find a person who is not a self centered selfish jerk to have a happy healthy relationship with.
- For my spouse to break up with his mistress.
- My husband will figure out what it really is.
- That my marriage will work out.
- I would love to completely bury hurtful thoughts and memories!
- I hope to find trust and forgiveness. It feels impossible now, but hope for a change. Love was one of the most important things to me and now I feel as though it no longer exists, only the naive beleive in it.
- Build a new relationship based on new behaviors and understanding.
- It was Love that kept us together and it was Love that kept us moving forward in the right direction. Most importantly, it was God's Love that kept us from falling apart. Love gave us patience and understanding for each other, and our Love for each other allowed us to forgive each other. Without Love we would not have made it through the 25 years that we have been married.
- Our hope for 2017 is that we can be finished with our counseling (almost 2 years worth) and living life to the fullest!!
- "HAPPILY EVER AFTER"
- Moving past shock and pain to rebuild it if possible.
- That my spouse will have a view of what real love is. I have not been truly loved for 22 years of marriage.
- That it will be better than 2016. To build a better foundation of trust and hope in our relationship and continue our journey for a great marriage.
- Learn how to fight... using the fights to strengthen our bond, not isolate us even more "
- Getting back together, repairing my marriage.
- That I will see love in my husbands eyes for me again.
- Renewed connection and further intimacy.
- To meet someone who loves me for who I am. To be able to let go and trust someone again.
- The Fairy Tale, having my Knight in Shining Armor and me being the Princess.
- Contentment. Reconnecting.
- No more lies.
- Reconnection and passion but am Very doubtful.
- I hope that i can fully accept the situation we are in and i can detach with love.
- I hope that I will be given love and appreciation in 2017. I sought it for so many years, and that is why I sought it in someone else.
- I think about continuing to grow my loving relationship with my spouse and to plant seeds that will build a lasting relationship.
- To feel with confidence that I am really loved and not second best.
- Respect.
- That my partner will take responsibility for his actions and acknowledge the hurt caused by his betrayal. That he will not be defensive all the time. That he will make a decision as to whether we move forward together or apart. He seems to leave all the work of healing and decisions up to me. He is unable to make a decision as to what he really wants. Says one thing but actions say another. Confusing for me. We do love each other but he is very indecisive. I am ready to walk away but I don't want to walk away if he truly loves me.
- My marriage goes back to where I thought it was.
- An opportunity to communicate openly with my husband and work toward a reconciliation.
- The ability to love deeper and forgive.
- Recovering further so that I am a better parent to our son. Developing a friendship with my cheating husband so that no matter what happens we can communicate in a positive way about our son.
- Rebeginning. Recommitment. The wall she has maintained has made this a selfish, affectionate less and sexless life. I want her to show love again.
- I will not be with my husband. I am divorcing him. However, I do love him, but the mean things he has done to me for unknown reasons have created too much damage, and I know I can never be with him again. My husband begged me to come back to him, and when I did, he went back with the affair partner; they took almost all of my belongings, and changed the locks on me. He left me without a home and without money. Some day I will heal from this pain, but many of the things he has done to me, has left permanent scars.
- I will continue to love myself, my kids, my family and friends. I will continue to practice a loving attitude towards others. I'm not looking for any long-term romantic love at this stage but am very keen to explore life with some fun adventures and go on dates again!
- I hope that my husband will realize that he's in love only with me and not with his AP.
- A renewal & moving forward.
- I hope to find a way to forgive me ex husband and how to love myself.
- To reach a level of understanding, mutual support and a renewed connection of what our love means.
- I hope that we are able to put our past behind us and start on the road of recovery and build a better marriage and relationships. I know its going to take a lot of effort and time. But I want to believe God for complete change in my heart and my love towards my wife.
- Healing our relationship; to remember why I fell in love with my husband and to become again the woman I was when he fell in love with me.
- A continuation of the renewed commitment that we made to each other. Which involves honesty, communication, and transparency. A feeling of safety which will hopefully lead to trust. I love my husband and his actions over this past year have helped me realize that he loves me. I would marry him again!
- I hope I can learn to live with what's left, and that the problems that were there and still exist will no longer bother me. I hope that I can learn to live with the fact that since I had an affair our previous issues are now void.
- Letting go of resistance and resentment. Accepting where we are and where we really were. Opening mind to some new kind of mature mutual respect that could move toward a loving connection.
- Nothing from a relationship stand point. I just want to focus on myself and healing and be there for my young daughters. I want to focus on them and helping them deal with their disappointment and pain of of dad leaving. I want to grow in my relationship with God and focus on my health and getting back in shape.
- I hope for complete trust, forgiveness and a new wedding ceremony. The old one is dead and gone, I want a new one!
- To give unconditional love to my spouse. I trust her with my life... I want to trust her with my heart and soul.
- To be able to fully trust my wife and a work toward our continued connection. To prosper as individuals as well as a couple.
- I hope my children & I will not see love cynically; I hope I still love myself; I hope love will surround me in ways it did not in 2016!
- I hope to trust and to believe that my spouse is as committed to our marriage, our happiness and our future as I am. I am hopeful our marriage will be stronger than it was before the affair. I am hopeful that we have grown closer, learned to communicate better and appreciate what we have in each other. I hope to continue to learn and grow together in 2017 and in the years to come. It won't be perfect and we are sure to have some set backs, but I hope we have learned enough to work through it with love, care, empathy and compassion.
- That I could feel loved by the man who hurt me instead of him makimg me feel like his affair was my fault.
- Trust, intimacy, communication, forgiveness, peace!!
- I hope that I can find enough love in my heart to forgive my husband for his actions so that we can move forward.
- Greater intimacy and security in my husband's love for me.
- To be true to one lover and never betray them again, to find peace and love unconditionally.
- In 2017, I hope to love myself better. Whomever I love, myself, my children and/or my spouse, it will be with authenticity and transparency. Love will no longer fit into a box constructed by Disney or built on deprivation. Love will be spiritually, emotionally and physically fulfilling.
- I hope for connection because this is what is missing from our relationship right now. He can't move forward until we find that connection again. We love each other deeply but it's changed.
- That I am respected and love by my spouse and I can trust him again
- I want to be able to look in the mirror and not have his voice in my head telling me that I'm a fat ugly bitch. I want to get through a day without his voice in my head telling me that no man would ever love me or ever want to touch me because I'm so disgusting... I want to learn to let go of all the anger I have built up inside. I want to forget all the digusting details he flaunted in my face about his affair. I want to forget all the evil things he said and did to me. But more importantly, I want to learn to love myself, when he has made me believe that there is nothing in me to love.
- My wife coming back after cutting off all ties with AP, willing and ready to rebuild our marriage.
- Can't think about love. I have four children who have been abandoned by their father as he is now engaged and living life to the fullest without them.
- That I will experience sincere repentant love.
- I hope to finally be able to put the past behind me and move forward. I don't want to feel anxiety or despair when we talk about the affair.
- To be able to rekindle love and trust and, perhaps forgiveness with my spouse.
- Security, freedom, commitment, happiness, thoughtfulness, understanding, acceptance, gratitude, connection, boundaries, protection, attention, presence,truth, honor, integrity, respect.... with that comes passion and unbroken love.
- A relationship where two people must listen, compromise, and respect. It's being open and HONEST, thoughtful and kind. A love that supports, comforts, and is determined to triumph over every challenge and adversity. Love is caring enough about each other to work through disappointing and hurtful times.
- Just to love my children and myself.
- Resolution. Absolution. Peace. If we can achieve these; we will survive some of the most difficult time one can imagine.
- I am hoping for a reconciliation to rebuild our marriages of 26 years but lacking confidence as so much damage, hurt and pain. Husband seems ambivalent right now and deep in a pity pit.
- Openness, a sense of being desired and respected, a feeling that she will be there for me and the kids , will put themselves second after others, giving more to the relationship than taking.
- A deeper connection and better understanding between us as a couple.
- Clarity.
- That I could forget his affair COMPLETELY & truely forgive him, which I have been unable to do in the past 12 years, so I can finally let go of the pain, move on for good, stop "looking back," focus on US more & perhaps "re-fall in love" with him again, even after 27 years of marriage.
- I hope for healing for my spouse. I know that the human thing for me to do would be to divorce him, since he can't seem to get passed the affair.
- To feel accepted for who I am, not who someone wants me to be.
- Fidelity trust honesty commitment and a husband that uses his brain and not his Dick to think with. I hope I can convince my husband to seek help to find the answers to why he did what he did. More than anything I hope I can move forward and forgive him and learn to trust him again. When I think of love I think of my mum and dad who were married for 62 years before dad passed. I want that to be us because no matter what I love him but I don't trust him. I want to know love with trust and honesty again. I hope we start the road to 62 years and beyond again.
- Be happy by my own and surround myself with honest and kind friends.
- Deeper understanding and connection.
- That my spouse will know he's loved by me.
- That the real meaning of it will be felt and displayed by my spouse.
- When I think about love, I hope for a year in which my husband and my relationship flourishes, and we get to share new experiences together. I hope it's a year in which I am haunted less by the fears, flashbacks, and pain which accompanied my husband's indiscretion. I hope it's a year in which the love we share can overshadow anything bad in the past.
- I hope that we continue to nurture our relationship everyday and not fall back into a routine that doesn't put God first in our lives and our relationship second.
- I hope for clarity in feelings and actions. Hopeful for renewal in my marriage.
- Experiencing the loss, healing the pain and recapturing the strength to make healthy and sound decisions. With love for myself and others.
- I hope for the peace and trust to return.
- I hope to be able to fully trust, fully be present and that we are able to connect on every level: emotionally, spiritually, financially. 45 years of marriage, still want to experience passio, desire and connection!
- I would like to be in love with my husband, and have him be in love with me again.
- My husband insists he has *never* stopped loving me in 43 years of marriage, but it still defies my definition of love that he could "love" me and have a one night stand threesome with a wife and her husband 19 years ago and lie about it... He finally confessed that he broke his vow to me. My definition of love/commitment needs to be on the same page as my husband's. He is doing everything within his power to show me his love/renewed commitment. I hope he does not lose sight of that love in the new year.
- That we continue to communicate our feelings good or bad and focus on re commiting to our relationship.
- I hope for myself to find peace and forgiveness in what my wife did. I hope that we can create a connection we never had in the last. I hope that I can trust her without question like I did before if not more. Love was never in question, I have and always will love her. It is how I am able to grow through this process and be able to find forgiveness and comfort with her.
- That I can fully express my love for my husband as deeply as I feel it.
- To be able to be vulnerable to my spouse and for my WS to acknowledge his affair at least once and ask me how I'm doing. Over 2 years passed DDAY- he has yet to do that.
- To be able to let go and forgive.
- I hope I can move past the affair & be truly free of the pain & sadness. Stop obsessing, let it go & forgive.
- To reconnect with my wife and build a stronger more loving relationship. Our marriage was going downhill when our 25 year old son passed away unexpectedly . I believe she was on a coarse of self destruction and anger so she didn't really care what she was doing. We are now in the process of working things out.
- A new relationship built on a strong foundation of trust and empathy.
- That my husband appreciates me more for who I am. All of the things that are attributes of mine--and mine alone. I want to feel that he never takes for granted (again) my need and love for him. And more than anything I hope that he is not so broken that he would ever hurt me again. For any reason.
- To be back with my husband building our marriage.
- That my husband will want more openness, emotional intimacy; that he will be able and willing to discuss topics that might be related to the affair/triggers without feeling defensive or getting upset that I'll "never get over it". That he will express a desire to have marital counseling in order to have a deeper relationship. He says he is happy with how things are.
- I hope that my relationship can be healed. I want nothing more than to continue what we worked so hard to build together... My wish for 2017 is that I hope she will come around and realize that we are better than her affair and be willing to fight for us, get down in the trenches with me and really fight for our love.
- Intimacy returning to my marriage.
- I hope love returns in 2017. 6 months into finding out and I still cry several times a week. I'd like to return to the level of love and comfort I had before this all came to light.
- Hopefully finding the right person and being happy.
- Find a way for husband to overcome shame/embarrassment to tell me the truth about his affairs.
- What I hope for most in the upcoming year is continued change and growth in both of us as individials, for me to gain more confidence in myself, for both of us to keep God first in our lives and deepen our relationship with Him. I hope that our conversations continue to build a solid foundation of trust and a new friendship, and that we work together as we work through the hard things ahead. I hope that we both continue to pray for and with each other and that this "new beginning" for us looks nothing like our marriage did before the affair. I hope for a closeness that can only come from knowing each other's darkest times and the beauty that can only come from accepting each other and living in grace and forgiveness. I hope for complete reconciliation, that we will renew our vows to each other and move back and live together again as a family.
- To have at least a friendship based on a mutual simple love and respect for each other, but above all to have a healthy 'self love' because you need that to heal and move forward.
- My hope for this year will be for our love towards each other will override any insecurities and anger from the affair so we can continue to move forward.
- Absence of pain, absence of rejection.
- That my children have peace, happiness, and security.
- That he will finally understand the pain and be willing to work on making our relationship better.
- I hope that my triggers start to fade away, and I can control my emotional breakdowns from turning into fights between us.
- Inner peace and acceptance. Godly grace.
- Keep believing, can't make someone love me, but can realize when it's time to move on and what behaviours DON'T demonstrate a loving relationship after trying and being patient.
- To love me as I need to feel whole again. Husband has gone back to affair partner and my heart is broken.
- That our bond will remain strong and we will stay together.
- I think about understanding for the great amount of pain, growth, and difficulty I have overcome to get to this point of forgiveness in our life together.
- That our love continues to grow deeper and stronger.
- Ongoing healing and trust-building through open sharing of emotions and needs.
- To trust again and to believe that I'm truly who my husband wants for his partner, forever.
- The divorce to be final and to find a common ground to raise the kids, be respectful to each other, and fill my bed with greater joys and experiences.
- I hope that my husband will tell me that he still loves me and wants to be together with me.
- To overcome the pain of his infidelity and move forward to a brighter more connected honest future.
- Reconnecting to a deeper love, to a deeper understanding and a willingness of my husband to let go of all that is buried inside and share knowing he can trust me to be his friend-his best friend.
- Trust and not only to forgive, but to forget. I so desperately want to move forward,it is scary to put trust back in someone that took it away so easily.
- More of it.
- A new start, but most of all knowing that my children are loved unconditionally.
- To me, love is unconditional. I believe my love for my spouse will help me heal. My love for my husband will help lead me to forgiveness. Love is what is holding my family together. Love is what is allowing me to continue on in my marriage after such a hurtful betrayal. I am hoping to find happiness again in 2017.
- Renewing of my marriage and my husband wanting to to work on it.
- Love conquers all wrong.
- That I can feel it again - both giving and receiving.
- I can open my heart to love again. I am still hopeful that my husband will stop his affair and return to me. But if not, I need to find peace and love for myself.
- To not fall back into old pattern, pay more attention.
- I hope to find someone that I can be open and honest with and vice versa. Someone that can accepts me for who I am.
- I know now that infatuation and lust are felt, but love is an action. I want to be able to open my heart, as it has walls now it never did.
- A connection and understanding to support a relationship full of growth, happiness & love.
- Knowing I'm first in his life.
- I want my heart to stop hurting.
- That its there and it's real.
- I hope to feel, even incrementally, a hint of a capacity that I can trust again. I don't think I will feel loved unless I can trust again. I'm not sure I can show proper love without trust either.
- I hope that I will understand more about the "why" and forgive. For me, I want to love without having hurt and suspicion looming in the background. For him, I want him to be victorious and thankful for who God made him to be and love himself. For us, I want this to be a year where we are closer and more honest and in deeper love than ever before. . . 28th year.
- For us to cleave to each other.
- Recommitment, connection, regaining trust love and safety. Most important HOPE! I have faith we can come through my husbands infidelity stronger than we ever were.
- I would hope most for a sense of passion.
- I will love myself again and my wounds will heal.
- I thought I understood what love meant. But after experiencing infidelity, I'm really confused and do not have any understanding of the true meaning.
- To have it exclusively dedicated to me from my wife...
- I want to feel safe with my partner again. I love him, and have no doubt that he loves me. But I want to feel secure in both our past relationship that I thought was building the foundation of us, and also keep building trust for our future.
- Love is something to be cherished and that as partners we must constantly nurture it. It is about intimacy and respect for each other and my hope is that we both continue to work on both ours individual selves and on our relationship to preserve that mature love. You come to realize that there is nothing like it in the grand scheme if things!
- To move through our impending divorce, to share the care of the children equally, and to enable each other to have a comfortable place to live.
- That i can go forward without having full closure. I think I am in the mindset of better the devil you know than you don't know.
- Sharing my life with someone who thinks about their loved ones. Who gives to community and others selflessly. Who understands giving of oneself to others openly not only fills you but fills the other person too and that brings joy to all. Continuing to care for myself and understand who I am. To continue to take risks in sharing my feelings with the people around me to let them know I value and love them. To love myself because I am a loving, caring and giving individual.
- A loving partner with honour integrity and morals. None of which my husband has. I am a strong confident woman who is more valuable than he ever thought - I am happy in my own right and don't need him to make me happy.
- I think about the seven levels of intimacy and how when you open your heart when you're vulnerable, you're able to be intimate with your partner which creates a stronger and deeper in love with one another.
- For my ability to continue to love myself and others as Christ has called me to. It's all for His glory.
- That I will feel the same attraction towards my spouse that he feels towards me.
- 100% healing in our marriage
- To find someone that will love me and not every whore around.
- I hope that love can win out over fear. Fear has protected me, but how it has outlived its purpose. I need to be brave enough to trust in love.
- That i will beable to feel love. Or even feel at all.
- I want to take time and find myself and who I am in 2017. I will be loved by my kids, family, friends, and myself and when I am happy I will work on adding someone to my life. But I still believe in love and fidelity :)
- Finding new love of a woman that will be open, honest, truthful and real with me. Also ensuring my kids don't lose their belief in faith, love and relationships during my wife's affair and our impending divorce.
- Lots of it!
- At age 74, I want a meaningful and intimate relationship with my ex-wife. I've loved her for 33 years but she... has never admitted that her 12-15 years of affairs were what destroyed our marriage.
- Acceptance and appreciation of who and what I am....I'm not his "property" but his partner.
- Every day I am hopeful for my marriage, and every day I am disappointed- I think we both feel trapped- but would love to feel loved by someone- and would like it be by my husband.
- Peace and freedom from the painful memories and visions that are with me every day.
- I hope that my husband and I can get our old life and our marriage back.....but with trust, confidence and security enhanced.
- I hope for the grace to forgive, the trust to love unconditionally and the courage to trust completely.
- I want us to be happy and in love. I want to feel confident in myself and my abilities and looks again.
- I hope I experience love for myself in my new normal as well as be able to demonstrate and receive love from and to family and friends. If romantic love finds me, then I hope to be able to experience it with authenticity, sincerity, trust, and joy.
- Renewal and reconciliation with an open transparent relationship built on love.
- To be grounded in God's love and love others the way they need.
- To find a deeper love with my spouse. To understand each other and to have mutual respect. To stop guessing and KNOW each others thoughts and feelings.
- Some kind of reconciliation. To start our relationship again. But my wife holds all the cards so I have no way of knowing what 2017 will bring .
- I am scared to love right now. I hope to be able to have the courage to open my heart again.
- I am hoping that I will be able to accept that he really does love me.
- More than love, peace. Finally an end to the upheaval and chaos. Living with an addict is draining.
- Letting go of past hurt in order to experience deeper love and complete joy.
- A sense of peace and acceptance. For us, love will be care for the other's well being, regardless of the direction our marriage takes.
- I hope that my husband will be able to find love with me again. I want us to both feel loved, desired, and respected.
- To be able to find myself and look the people in the eye that I have hurt and somehow let go of the guilt of what I have done.
- When I think about love and my hopes for 2017 I hope that I am able to get to a place where I feel like I have some sense of what love really is supposed to be.
- I hope that my husband can continue to seek out the one true love in Jesus Christ . I firmly believe that if my husband loves Jesus and wants Jesus most In his life then he will be able to love me the way God designed me to love and be loved . I hope for me to be able to not be afraid to let my husband love me ( and believe it's genuine) after all the betrayal.
- My husband feels he was so unhappy with the way I s treating him, that he gave up. I hope we reconnect and fall in love with one another in 2017.
- New beginnings. Tender sweet honest love to discover. And fun. Freedom to love again. To be free of all the lies deception and betrayal.
- That we can be on the same page, and work on renewing and revitalizing our relationship.
- A new chapter for me.
- I hope to find happiness and love beyond what I have presently experienced, but I do not know if this will be with my spouse or with a new partner.
- I hope to be able to rebuild our marriage and gain back a certain degree of trust in our relationship. We do have love, but forgiveness and trust are hard to regain.
- I hope that attending to my wife and caring about what she needs (even on days when I just want to be selfish) will be a little bit more normal for me.
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