My friend has just found out about their spouse's affair. What can I do to help?
How good of a friend are you? I ask that honestly because it will take a strong friendship to help support a betrayed spouse. They will likely go through weeks and months of intense pain and grief. Things will get worse before they get better.
They need a safe place to vent. They need a relationship they can trust. If you are the kind of friend who can weather this kind of storm, God bless you. You will be a valuable part of their healing.
Your friend will swing between periods of rage and grief. If all their rage is spent on their spouse, it will be destructive. Encourage them to vent with you so they can be more intentional in the words they use with their spouse. And since they may not be able to trust the affection of their spouse, they need family and friends like you to provide a safe place to express their pain and sorrow.
Give what you can. You don't have to have all the answers; you just have to be willing to be there. And if it starts to feel overwhelming to you, spend some time away before getting involved again.
