His Affair Partner with My Kids
This often feels like a second betrayal—bringing the affair partner into your children’s lives. Here’s one woman’s story. If you haven’t listend to the podcast episode, Elisa’s Story Part 3, you’ll hear another betrayed wife deal with the same frustrating pain.
My husband moved out about a week ago. When we were discussing the details, I asked him for just one thing: please don’t introduce the kids to anyone who might be seen as a potential girlfriend for a while. I even asked if that would be a problem, and he said he didn’t think so.
Then yesterday, while he had the kids for the day, they “happened” to run into his affair partner. And somehow, she ended up spending the whole day with them. She even joined them for dinner. He swears it wasn’t planned and says the kids actually invited her to join them.
So last night, I had to sit there listening to my kids talk about how much fun they had with her. I felt physically sick. I told him how unacceptable this was and that he can’t even begin to imagine how much this hurts. He agreed, apologized. But let’s be honest, he wasn’t going to tell me about it. The kids mentioned “running into his friend,” and that’s the only reason I found out. He hadn’t even told them her name, which just feels like another layer of hiding.
I don’t know how to deal with this. This was my biggest fear. I cannot handle her being in my kids’ lives right now. It’s too soon, too painful. Today, I can barely function. I don’t even recognize him anymore. He’s not the man I married.
Right now, I’m just trying to hang on through the holidays so the kids can have a decent Christmas. After that... I honestly don’t know what I’ll do.
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