Introduction
Couples or Individuals
The benefits of this course are maximized if your partner also works through the Truth Talk: Giving Answers course, which provides specific instructions for their role in the truth-telling process. Whether or not your partner takes that course, this course will still guide you in the process of getting to the truth about their infidelity. A full video coaching session with Tim Tedder is included.
Spouses Who Still Have Some Hope for Their Marriage
If you or your partner has already determined to leave your marriage/relationship, do not take this course. This course will require both of you to enter into a vulnerable conversation. Neither partner should take that risk if the decision has already been made (by either one) to leave.
Betrayed Partners with Unresolved Questions
Ideally, you're finding this course soon after learning about your partner's infidelity. If so, it will help you avoid some of the common pitfalls that many fall into.
But even if you are well past the exposure of the affair (or infidelity), this course may still be helpful if the questions-and-answers process has been irregular or conflicted, leaving you with questions that have not been resolved. If the affair exposure was not recent, it is especially recommended that your partner participate by taking the Truth Talk for Involved Partners course, which complements this one.
What this Course Will and Will Not Do
Let me tell you what this course will and will not do.
Let's start with what it will do:
It will provide structure to the process of uncovering the truth about an affair. It will help you be more intentional about how you ask about the truth.
It will help you discover what you need to know to make informed decisions, whether in or out of your marriage.
If your Q&A process has become a series of conflicts, your partner's defensiveness creates a block to transparency and trust. This course will help you both move toward a more productive conversation, especially if your partner takes their version of this course.
Here's what this course will not do.
It will not guarantee that your spouse/partner will be honest with you. You will have to determine whether their responses give you enough reason to risk trusting them. (This course will help you with that, too.)
It will not save your marriage at any cost. If you and your partner share the common goal of healing your marriage, this course will help you do that! But neither you nor I can control your partner's choices, and this course cannot guarantee anyone's "good behavior."