When Betrayal Begins Before an Affair
What is PageTalk?
This is the first release of a “PageTalk” episode. In this and future episodes of this type, I’ll be reviewing content from a page of the Affair Healing website with additional commentary and insights. Sometimes I’ll do this alone. Sometimes I’ll invite a guest to join me. Either way, it’s an opportunity to review meaningful content that hasn't been explored on the podcast.
—Tim Tedder
In this first PageTalk episode of the podcast, Tim revisits his recent article The Betrayal Often Begins Before the Affair, which was posted on AffairHealing.com. Written after the release of the previous episode (Unshakeable), the article explores how betrayal often begins long before an affair, in the quiet erosion of a couple's emotional connection. Tim shares his own reflection on breaking his marriage promises years before his affair began, then makes room for another side of the story: a conversation with Steve, a client who felt the article told only half the truth. Steve describes years of feeling emotionally shut out by his wife before his own affair, and Tim uses the conversation to explore Esther Perel's insight that "the victim of the affair is not always the victim of the marriage," suggesting that both partners in a struggling marriage can find the humility to look back and the hope to move forward.
LINKS and EXTRAS
Episode Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/065
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