Building Us helps couples create a relationship that feels secure, connected, and satisfying. In four practical sections—Blueprint, Foundation, Tools, and Maintenance—you’ll learn how to agree on a shared vision, set clear boundaries, meet each other’s unique needs, and develop simple habits that keep love growing.
No gimmicks. No quick fixes. Just proven steps, drawn from over 20 years of counseling experience, that fit into real life and actually work. Whether you’re rebuilding trust, feeling stuck, or simply wanting more closeness, this course gives you the roadmap to lasting change—together.
Building Us: Create a Satisfying and Secure Relationship
Share a vision. Secure the foundation. Build your forever.
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Introducing the Course
An this video introduction, Tim Tedder talks about what to expect from this course, and how to make the best use of it.
An this video introduction, Tim Tedder talks about what to expect from this course, and how to make the best use of it.
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Taking this Course Alone
Guidelines for participants who choose to take this course individually, without the participation of a partner.
Guidelines for participants who choose to take this course individually, without the participation of a partner.
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eBook: A Couple's Guide
A downloadable copy of Tim Tedder’s PDF eBook, Affair Healing: A Recovery Guide for Couples.
A downloadable copy of Tim Tedder’s PDF eBook, Affair Healing: A Recovery Guide for Couples.
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Blueprint: First Thoughts
A starting question to discuss as you begin the Blueprint section of this course.
A starting question to discuss as you begin the Blueprint section of this course.
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Tim's Talk: Your Blueprint
Video: Tim talks about your relationship “blueprint”—the vision you have for what it will become.
Video: Tim talks about your relationship “blueprint”—the vision you have for what it will become.
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Exercise 1: Your Personal Vision
Individual Exercise: Defining your personal vision for what you would like your relationship to be in the future.
Individual Exercise: Defining your personal vision for what you would like your relationship to be in the future.
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Exercise 2: Steps Toward the Vision
Individual Exercise: Consider the changes necessary for your vision to be realized.
Individual Exercise: Consider the changes necessary for your vision to be realized.
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Exercise 3: A Shared Vision
Joint Exercise: Partners compare their personal blueprints and use them to create a shared vision for their relationship.
Joint Exercise: Partners compare their personal blueprints and use them to create a shared vision for their relationship.
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Identifying one action point from what you learned in the Blueprint section.
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Foundation: First Thoughts
A starting question to discuss as you begin the Foundation section of this course.
A starting question to discuss as you begin the Foundation section of this course.
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Tim's Talk: Your Foundation
Video: Tim talks about the importance of establshing or securing trust as the foundation of a relationship.
Video: Tim talks about the importance of establshing or securing trust as the foundation of a relationship.
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Exercise 1: Boundaries Survey
Individual Exercise: An opinion survey related to different relationship boundaries for each partner to complete individually.
Individual Exercise: An opinion survey related to different relationship boundaries for each partner to complete individually.
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Exercise 2: Boundaries Discussion
Joint Exercise: Couples discuss their responses to the survey questions.
Joint Exercise: Couples discuss their responses to the survey questions.
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Identifying one action point from what you learned in the Foundation section.
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How to work through a boundary issue if disagreement remains.
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A starting question to discuss as you begin the Tools section of this course.
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Tim's Talk: Your Tools
Video: Tim discusses the importance of idenditying and understanding each partner’s unique relationship needs—what makes them feel most satisfied and connected?
Video: Tim discusses the importance of idenditying and understanding each partner’s unique relationship needs—what makes them feel most satisfied and connected?
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Exercise 1: Your Relationship Needs
Individual Exercise: Each partner identifies the relationship needs that matter most to them.
Individual Exercise: Each partner identifies the relationship needs that matter most to them.
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Exercise 2: Relationship Needs Conversation
Joint Exercise: Identifying, understanding, and targeting each other’s highest needs.
Joint Exercise: Identifying, understanding, and targeting each other’s highest needs.
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Identifying one action point from what you learned in the Tools section.
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Maintenance: First Thoughts
A starting question to discuss as you begin the Maintenance section of this course.
A starting question to discuss as you begin the Maintenance section of this course.
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Tim's Talk: Relationship Maintenance
Video: Tim encourages you in taking steps to continue the work you started.
Video: Tim encourages you in taking steps to continue the work you started.
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Exercise 1: Your Daily TEA
Joint Exercise: A 3-part daily habit partners can develop to nurture ongoing connection.
Joint Exercise: A 3-part daily habit partners can develop to nurture ongoing connection.
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Joint Exercise: Get a jump-start on your 1-year review.
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Exercise 3: Creative Conversations
Joint Exercise: A list of over 150 creative questions to use as prompts for interesting interactions.
Joint Exercise: A list of over 150 creative questions to use as prompts for interesting interactions.
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Other Maintenance Ideas
A collection of 20 additional activities for you to consider using as you continue building together.
A collection of 20 additional activities for you to consider using as you continue building together.
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What If Your Partner Becomes Uncooperative?
A look at the choices you have to make if your partner is not willing to work on your relationship.
A look at the choices you have to make if your partner is not willing to work on your relationship.
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BUILD SOMETHING BETTER
It’s never too late to reset, replan, and rebuild.
Good relationships require cooperative work toward a common goal. If your relationship has strayed off course or maybe just stopped growing, Building Us will help you build again.
Start building today! Enjoy a relationship that is more secure and satisfying to both of you.
