Old Wounds, New Hurts
What does your inner child have to do with this?
The common explanation for why affairs happen is usually a marriage story: we grew apart, I felt neglected, something was missing. And sometimes those things are true. But they're rarely the whole story.
In this episode, Tim Tedder talks with Kayla Crane, a licensed therapist specializing in inner child work and trauma, about the childhood roots of adult behavior and what that has to do with infidelity. They explore how the adaptive patterns we developed early in life don't disappear when we grow up. They go underground. And in the stress of a marriage, they resurface in ways we don't always recognize, sometimes driving us toward betrayal, sometimes making it nearly impossible to heal from one.
If you've ever sensed that the "why" of the affair runs deeper than what's on the surface, this episode is worth your time.
LINKS and EXTRAS
Kayla Crane’s Website: SouthDenverTherapy.com
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Kayla Crane, LMFT
Kayla Crane is a Colorado-based therapist who has spent years sitting with couples in some of their hardest moments—navigating emotional distance, broken trust, and the painful aftermath of betrayal. She specializes in infidelity recovery, and what sets her work apart is her belief that lasting change requires more than communication skills. Kayla is trained in Systematic Affair Recovery Therapy (SART), an evidence-informed approach designed specifically for affair recovery, which guides couples through stabilization, rebuilding trust, and reconnecting emotionally, step by step, without skipping the hard parts.
What you'll notice quickly about Kayla is that she's collaborative without being passive, and direct without being clinical. She draws from Relational Life Therapy and inner child work to help clients understand not just what broke down, but why by tracing present patterns back to their roots so that change actually holds. Her goal isn't just a better relationship; it's a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner, and the practical tools to keep building from there.
