Addicted to Porn: Sacrificing Intimacy & Integrity
A Hidden Habit
Porn addiction doesn’t usually start in an overwhelming rush. It starts quietly—a habit that feels manageable, maybe even harmless. But over time, it rewires the way we experience desire, connection, and satisfaction with a gradual subtleness that’s hard to see until the damage is already done.
In this episode, I talk with Jeremy Lipkowitz, founder of the Unhooked Academy and host of the Unhooked podcast. Jeremy brings both personal experience and professional insight to this conversation. His own struggle with porn addiction began in adolescence and escalated through college into a daily habit that left him objectifying women, bored with real relationships, and searching for a contentment he couldn't find on a screen.
What eventually led Jeremy out wasn't willpower or better barriers. It was a deeper internal shift that came through Buddhist philosophy, mindfulness, and meditation. And what he discovered along the way became the foundation for the work he now does with helping others get free.
We talk about what actually defines addiction, the shame cycle that keeps it hidden, how porn quietly sabotages real intimacy and connection, and why community matters more than most people realize when you're trying to break free.
If porn has been a presence in your relationship, whether as a personal struggle or a betrayal, this conversation is worth your time.
LINKS and EXTRAS
Jeremy Lipkowitz’s site: UnhookedAcademy.com
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Jeremy Lipkowitz
Jeremy Lipkowitz is a meditation teacher, ICF-certified executive coach, and founder of the Unhooked Academy. His path to this work wasn't a straight line. He left a PhD program at Duke University after confronting his own struggles with addiction, shame, and self-judgment. A period of monastic training in Myanmar deepened his mindfulness practice and set him on a new course, blending ancient wisdom with modern science to help others find the freedom he'd spent years searching for himself.
Today, Jeremy is a leading voice in destigmatizing porn addiction and guiding men toward lasting recovery. His approach goes beyond behavior management; he helps people understand the deeper drives behind compulsive habits and do the inner work that produces real change. He's also the host of the Unhooked Podcast, where he continues that conversation with a growing community of men committed to integrity and genuine connection.
