Can You Have a Better Marriage after Infidelity?
No Guarantee
In my article, No Promise for a Happy Ever After, I make the point that having a “better marriage” after an affair is not something that every couple experiences. Some marriages, in fact, need to end.
But is it a realistic hope? Absolutely. Many couples can tell that story, but it took effort for them to get there.
In this podcast, we present a balanced view: hope for change, along with the recognition that you may need to make other choices. In the end, the hope is for healing. If your marriage can be a part of that, that’s good, too.
What do you do when you feel stuck in a marriage after an affair? Can you make it better?
In this episode, Tim sits down with Dr. Amy and Roy Clark, a husband-and-wife counseling team who specialize in helping couples rebuild a marriage or discern when it’s time to make a different choice. Together, they unpack the four pillars of relationship health—time, trust, communication, and reciprocity—and explore the complex realities of post-infidelity healing.
They discuss how betrayed partners can set loving boundaries, how unfaithful partners rebuild trust through consistent transparency, why humility is essential for change, and why chasing every detail of the affair often keeps couples trapped. Whether you’re fighting to restore your marriage or wrestling with what comes next, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and practical guidance for moving forward.
LINKS and EXTRAS
Roy & Amy’s Book: The Four Intimacies
Their Other Resources: royandamy.com, Aria Luxury Lubricant
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Dr. Amy & Roy Clark
Dr. Amy and Roy Clark, authors of The Four Intimacies—a guide to the practice of connection across four pillars: Verbal, Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual. They’re also the founders of Aria Luxury Brands, where elegant design turns these practices into daily rituals—from their signature luxury lubricant to the intimacy question card included in every box.
Dr. Amy is known for her depth of wisdom and rare relatability—personable, brilliant, and wonderfully human. Roy brings over 30 years of coaching couples and individuals, translating their book’s insights into simple, beautiful steps partners can actually do.
