Download: Anger FFISHing Quick Guide

NOTE: This is a PDF overview of Tim’s full article: Anger FFISHing: What Feelings are Under Your Anger?

When anger shows up, it often demands our full attention—but what if it’s not the real problem? In truth, anger is usually a signal, not a solution. Like a bobber bouncing on the surface of the water, it points to something deeper tugging below. Instead of reacting to the agitation, we need to get curious about what’s underneath. That’s the idea behind FFISHing: learning to identify the five common emotions often hiding beneath anger—Frustration, Fear, Injustice, Shame, and Hurt.

Once you recognize what’s really fueling your anger, everything shifts. You can step back from reactivity, express what’s truly going on, and connect more honestly with those around you. The article walks readers through how to control angry reactions, uncover hidden feelings, and respond with empathy—both for yourself and for others. Anger doesn’t have to push people away; it can be an invitation to look deeper and move toward healing.