Affairs at Any Age
My people who have come to me for affair recovery help have ranged in age from their 20s to their 90s. In this submission, Sylvia shares her story of being surprised by her husband’s affair when he was 70.
When you think of an unfaithful husband, you always think of a young man. My husband was 70 when he was unfaithful to me. I always thought that he was never going to cheat on me, but I was terribly wrong.
It all began with an invitation to an out-of-town wedding. Because I had shingles, I could not go. My husband was the best man, so he had to be present. It was going to be a small wedding, with only a few family members and a few friends! We knew everyone, so he was going to be among friends.
He left on a Friday for the Saturday wedding and was going to return home on Monday. He called every hour to tell me that he missed me and loved me. At 10 PM, I told him I was going to go to sleep and that I would call him as soon as I woke up.
The next day, I woke up at 6 AM. I called him, but he did not answer. I called a half hour later, still no answer. I started to feel a little anxious, but I thought he was probably still asleep. So I waited.
First mistake!
Half an hour later, I called the hotel phone and asked that someone go to my husband’s room and knock just to see if he was okay. But they told me that he had the “do not disturb” sign on his door. So I thought, “Well, he is still asleep. Let him sleep.” Second mistake!
At last, at 8:30, he called me and told me that he was very tired and that he was going to spend the day watching movies and resting, because he would have to get up very early the following day to catch the plane.
The next day, I went to the airport to pick him up. For the very first time, he did not look me in the eyes. I thought he was probably very tired and needed to rest.
The next four months were a nightmare. He was so different; he was mean, and he yelled at me for the very first time.
Usually, he called me five or six times from his office during the day. He never was in a rush to leave for the office, but now he was always in a rush to leave the house. He would always give me a long kiss goodbye, but not during these four months. He stopped making love to me. When he came from the office, he never said anything, not even 'Hi' to me. He was a totally different person.
He always had his cell glued to his hand. But one night, he was sleeping, and I took his mobile and opened it. There were all the messages between him and the other woman, a cousin of our friend. My heart broke into pieces. I could not believe it!
I woke him up and confronted him. Immediately, he started to tell me, “She is just a friend, she is just a friend!”
I asked, “Did you sleep with her?"
“Of course not!” he answered. But I knew in my heart he had. After fifteen days of questioning, he finally admitted that he slept with her. Crying and kneeling before me, he asked again and again for forgiveness!
He started to tell me “the truth,” but I am sure that he was just telling me half of it.
We are now healed. He returned to be the same great husband that he was before, but now I am not so trusting!
The only thing that he never answered me is WHY? That is something that I still ask him, but he always answer, “I don’t know”!
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