A Conversation with My Ex: D-day and the Aftermath
Listener Response
This is the second episode in a series of conversations between my ex-wife and me that began in episode one: Our Marriage, My Affair.
Here’s a message I received from a listener to that episode:
“Listening to episode 1 of this series left me almost breathless in amazement at the conversation being had, but so grateful to both of you. Thank you!”
In this second episode of A Conversation with My Ex, Tim Tedder and his ex-wife Konnie talk about the disclosure of Tim's affair—first the partial truth, then the full confession he chose to make a week later.
What followed was one of the most revealing stretches of their marriage: Konnie processing devastating grief while Tim watched, emotionally unreachable, from somewhere he couldn't explain. They tried. They stayed under the same roof for months, attempting repairs neither of them was fully equipped to make. And then, it was a misunderstanding that became the excuse for choices that would unravel their marriage.
This episode doesn't soften their hard history, but it also doesn't leave you without hope. Two people talking this honestly about this much pain, with this much respect for each other, is its own kind of evidence that something worthwhile survived.
I Should Feel Something (song lyrics)
I know I did this
, I know this mess is mine
You fall to your knees while I make my stand
I know I loved you so I should feel something
But your eyes flood while mine fill with sand
I feel nothing
I feel nothing
Pain shatters all around me
I feel nothing
Your heart’s broken
You scream out my name, I feel nothing
Except the shame
I should say something, I should tell you we’ll be fine
You cry for answers, I make you guess
I sing songs so words should come easy
But you strain for music while my song’s at rest
I feel nothing
I feel nothing
Pain shatters all around me
I feel nothing
Your heart’s broken
You scream out my name, I feel nothing
Except the shame
Where is the man who swore he would hold you?
Where is the man with love gone wild?
He would be covering you like a champion
He would be comforting you like a child
I feel nothing
I feel nothing
Pain shatters all around me
I feel nothing
Your heart’s broken
You scream out my name, I feel nothing
Except the shame
My fist holds tight the seeds of regret
Someday I might plant them, but I’m not ready yet
©2025 Tim Tedder
LINKS and EXTRAS
Episode Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/055
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You can send a private message to Konnie by using the contact form available on the episode 1 page.
