Stop Repairing Your Marriage After an Affair
So Many Couples Get Stuck
In this episode, I encourage listeners to see affair healing as more than just focusing on the betrayer’s faithfulness—confessing, promising not to stray again, or trying to get the marriage back on track. What’s often missing, and what provides the greatest assurance, is authenticity. Fidelity can be promised and doubted, but openness and vulnerability are difficult to fake and far easier to trust. —Tim T
After infidelity, many couples try to repair their marriage by patching cracks, setting up boundaries, and promising fidelity. While those steps are essential, they rarely restore the deep stability that betrayed partners long for. Why? Because real healing requires more than repair. It requires renovation.
In this episode, Tim Tedder uses the powerful metaphor of a house with a secret basement to show why repair alone often leaves couples stuck. Tim explains why authentic self-examination—especially for the unfaithful partner—is the missing piece in so many recovery efforts.
Through storytelling, a creative audio sketch, and real-life examples of two men who took very different paths after betrayal, this episode highlights the difference between settling for negotiated stability and building a new foundation of genuine trust.
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Episode Web Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/024
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