
Pain Mending for Injured Partners
Pain Mending for Injured Partners is a step-by-step course for helping you deal with wounds of infidelity. You learn to examine losses, express your hurt with honesty and openness, and engage in guided communication that moves beyond reaction into intentional repair. With tools like the “Loss Letter” and structured dialogues, couples practice vulnerability, remorse, forgiveness, and hope—mending brokenness and preparing to build a better future together.
This course guides the betrayed partner toward a more meaningful exchange about the pain and loss experienced due to the infidelity. It also includes basic instructions for the willing involved partner to cooperate in the process, but more complete help is provided for them in the course: Pain Mending for Involved Partners.
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A Message from Tim
In this video, Tim Tedder explains the steps in this course and encourages you in the process of moving “from hurt to healing.”
In this video, Tim Tedder explains the steps in this course and encourages you in the process of moving “from hurt to healing.”
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Questions and answers about the course Pain Mending for Injured Partners.
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If you are in counseling...
Considerations for integrating this course with your counseling experience.
Considerations for integrating this course with your counseling experience.
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This course’s worksheets in a single download.
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Mini-Guide for Your Partner
A mini-guide for partners who are NOT taking the Pain Mending for Involved Partners course.
A mini-guide for partners who are NOT taking the Pain Mending for Involved Partners course.
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eBook: Broken Pieces
This 67-page PDF eBook includes articles and real-life stories of affair healing.
This 67-page PDF eBook includes articles and real-life stories of affair healing.
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How to prepare for you partner’s response to your Loss Letter.
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Stop here and wait until yor partner is ready to respond to your Loss Letter.
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Receiving Their Response
Receiving your partner’s response to your Loss Letter, and how to react to it.
Receiving your partner’s response to your Loss Letter, and how to react to it.
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If Your Partner Isn't Cooperating
What should you do if your partner isn’t willing to actively participate in this process?
What should you do if your partner isn’t willing to actively participate in this process?
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THE TRUTH MATTERS
Don’t get stuck in the pain.
Healing from infidelity requires more than time—it requires understanding. The Pain Mending courses guide couples through the Loss Letter process, where the Injured Partner gives voice to the pain and losses caused by betrayal, and the Involved Partner learns how to listen, respond with empathy, and offer a meaningful apology.
Together, you’ll move beyond defensiveness and silence into honest communication that fosters connection, remorse, and the possibility of renewal. Whether taken on its own or alongside our other recovery courses, this step offers couples a structured way to face the hurt and begin building something stronger.