SURVEY: Where do you feel stuck?

I’m still collecting data from this survey, so feel free to respond if you have not already done so. If you’d like to see the results of data collected within the first 10 days of the survey’s release, see the “Where You’re Stuck” post. —Tim Tedder

Examples of where some people get stuck in the affair healing process:

• Unresolved uncertainty about whether or not my partner cheated on me.

• Undecided about what to disclose about my infidelity.

• Wanting or seeking vengeance.

• Who to tell or not tell about the infidelity.

• How to deal with our children.

• Not believing their story (or your partner not believing you).

• Can’t stop asking questions or investigating.

• Lack of insight into WHY it happened.

• Trouble choosing between the marriage partner and the affair partner.

• Ongoing emotional connection to the affair partner (even if there is no contact).

• Ongoing dishonesty.

• Constant anger or withdrawal.

• Inability to forgive (or be forgiven).

• Inability to trust (or be trusted).

• Lack of empathy or remorse.

• No clear vision for personal change.

• No clear vision for the future of our relationship.

• No agreement on relationship boundaries or expectations.

• Inability to know or meet each other’s needs.

• Poor communication or conflict resolution.

• Sexual disconnection.

• Unresolved pre-existing relationship problems.