SURVEY: Where do you feel stuck?

I’m collecting data to help inform me about where I should focus new resources and services. Whether or not you feel “stuck” in any particular stage of affair healing, your input would be welcomed! -Tim Tedder

Responses are collected ANONYMOUSLY. Results will eventually be shared via newsletter and on this page, but we’re still collecting responses to update the data, so please feel free to share your opinion!

Examples of where some people get stuck in the affair healing process:

• Unresolved uncertainty about whether or not my partner cheated on me.

• Undecided about what to disclose about my infidelity.

• Wanting or seeking vengeance.

• Who to tell or not tell about the infidelity.

• How to deal with our children.

• Not believing their story (or your partner not believing you).

• Can’t stop asking questions or investigating.

• Lack of insight into WHY it happened.

• Trouble choosing between the marriage partner and the affair partner.

• Ongoing emotional connection to the affair partner (even if there is no contact).

• Ongoing dishonesty.

• Constant anger or withdrawal.

• Inability to forgive (or be forgiven).

• Inability to trust (or be trusted).

• Lack of empathy or remorse.

• No clear vision for personal change.

• No clear vision for the future of our relationship.

• No agreement on relationship boundaries or expectations.

• Inability to know or meet each other’s needs.

• Poor communication or conflict resolution.

• Sexual disconnection.

• Unresolved pre-existing relationship problems.