150 Questions for Couples

Compiled by Tim Tedder

Over 150 questions for couples to help start conversations, learn about each other, or bring new fun and freshness into the relationship! This list includes…

• Casual Questions: Fun questions for couples to answer.

• Family & Childhood Questions: Questions for couples to learn more about their growing up experiences.

• Questions About You: Includes both lighthearted and more serious questions about each person’s opinions, experiences, and wishes.

• Relationship Questions: Questions for couples to explore their views on love and relationships.

• Sex and Intimacy Questions: Questions for couples to explore sexual opinions, interests, and desires.

Use them all, or pick the ones you want!

Sometimes, we need helpful suggestions for starting a conversation. The internet is full of question lists for couples, but many are not very useful. I adapted the best questions I could find, added some of my own, and grouped them into categories. I ended up with a list that any couple can use to start a conversation or build a relationship.

Instructions

Use this list of over 150 Questions any way you want, but here are some ideas:

• Partners take turns choosing a question from the list that each answers.

• One partner takes responsibility for selecting a daily question to send in a text that both will answer that day.

• Start with “Casual” questions and work up to more intimate ones. Don’t avoid the more challenging ones! Note: If your relationship has not progressed to a sexual level, you can skip the questions in the last category.

Casual Questions

• If money were no object, what would you do all day?

• Other than water, what would you enjoy taking a bath in?

• Would you rather have your cell phone fall in a toilet or have your car rear-ended (crushing the bumper)?

• What things prove that bigger isn't always better?

• Would you rather be a famous director or actor?

• Would you rather have the mind of a 30-year-old or the body of a 30-year-old for the rest of your life?

• Would you rather be able to speak every human language or speak with animals?

• Who would you be if you could be (and had to be) anyone else for a week?

• If you could pick a fictional character to be your best friend, who would it be?

• What would you do with an extra $1,000 today?

• If you entered a room filled with everything you ever lost, what would you look for first?

• If you could possess the body of any living person for one hour, who would you choose? What would you do?

• Would you rather time travel but always arrive with your face covered in tattoos or teleport but always arrive without clothes on? Bonus: Where would you go first?

• What would you ask if you were guaranteed the true answer to any one question?

• If you could be any animal with the same intelligence you have now, what animal would you be (and why)?

• Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you will say? Why?

• What's more important: experience or imagination? (You have to choose one and give your reason.)

• If you were limited to an endless supply of only 3 food items and 1 drink item for a month, what items would you choose?

• If you had to lose one of these senses - touch, sight, or hearing - which one would you give up first? Which one would you give up second?

• What superpower do you wish you could have?

• When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

• What would you do if time (and everything else) froze for 24 hours?

• Would you rather be able to change people's thoughts or change people's feelings?

• Would you rather eat whatever and always be healthy or go without sleep and never be tired?

• If you could have a button that did one thing every time you pressed it, what would you want it to do?

• Would you rather have three wishes in three years or one wish today?

Questions About Family & Childhood

• What did you typically do on Saturdays as a child?

• Who is your least favorite relative? Why?

• How did your family shape who you are?

• If you could change one thing about how you grew up, what would it be?

• What is a family tradition you remember from your childhood?

• What's your best childhood Christmas memory?

• What's your favorite birthday memory?

• What was your favorite childhood toy?

• Would you rather live in your great-grandparents' shoes or your great-grandchildren’s shoes?

• In what ways are you like your parents? In what ways are you different from them?

• How did your childhood family resolve conflicts?

• What is something you wonder most about your parent(s)?

• Other than a parent, who inspired you when you were growing up?

• What would you say to your 16-year-old self?

Questions About You

• When you hear the word "adventure," what comes to mind?

• What do you miss most when you're away from home?

• What is the worst injury you've experienced?

• What is the best gift you've ever received?

• What’s the worst job you’ve ever had?

• What was one of your most embarrassing experiences?

• What do you wish you could forget?

• What is something you love that most other people do not like?

• What always makes you smile?

• What is the single most liberating thought you've ever had?

• How does your life compare to how you imagined it growing up? What would the younger you think of your life right now?

• What would you want to know if a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, or your future?

• What's something you've always wanted to do but worried about people judging you for it?

• What’s something you wish you were better at?

• What was your first pet? Favorite pet?

• Was there anything unusual you were afraid of as a child?

• What was your reputation in high school?

• If you had to relive a year of your life (without changes), which one would you choose? Why?

• What's your favorite snack?

• What's one of your favorite quotes?

• What’s your favorite movie, and why?

• What's the scariest movie you've ever seen?

• What's your favorite so-bad-it's-good movie?

• What's your favorite card or board game?

• Would you consider yourself more of a dreamer or a doer?

• What’s the most significant spiritual experience you’ve had?

• What makes you feel refreshed after a long day?

• What kind of vacation would you most enjoy?

• What's the biggest risk you've ever taken?

• If you could become a celebrity overnight for the rest of your life, would you?

• At what age did you learn the most about yourself?

• What book(s) changed your life?

• 3 Songs: What song... is a favorite from your past? ...has special significance to you? ...is a newer favorite?

• What is your purpose in life?

• What have you changed your mind about recently?

• What is a time when something went wrong or you failed, and what did you learn from it?

• What experience made you feel most afraid?

• What truth about you would most people be surprised to find out?

• What was your closest near-death experience?

• What's your favorite thing about yourself?

• What are you working on to improve yourself?

• What is an insecurity you've overcome?

• What makes you feel relaxed?

• What's your worst habit?

• What do you dream of owning?

• Would you rather have a life with more time or more money?

• If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

• If you could choose to be instantly proficient in two new skills, what would they be?

• If you could become either twice as attractive or twice as intelligent, which would you choose?

• If you could do something dangerous just once with no risk, what would you do?

• Would you rather own a home you don't love or rent one you love?

• What is the best party or celebration you have ever been to? What was the worst one you have ever been to?

• Assuming everyone is safe, what three possessions would you save in a fire?

• Do you believe in ghosts?

• What was your bravest moment?

• What would you ask if you were offered the answers to any questions about your future?

• What three choices from your past do you wish you could change?

• What's the best view you’ve ever seen?

• What's a common misconception people have had about you?

• If you could significantly augment (improve) one of your senses, which one would you choose?

• If you could make one permanent cosmetic change to your body today, what change would you make?

• What personal choice or accomplishment are you most proud of?

• When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

Questions About Relationship

• Who was your first crush?

• When you’re in a relationship, what's an instant turnoff?

• Romantically speaking, what’s drawn you to people in your past?

• What's the craziest thing you've done in the name of love?

• What’s the worst date you’ve ever been on, and why?

• What is something new you'd like to do with your partner?

• What's more important: love or truth?

• What are the advantages of being in a relationship you miss when you're single? What are the advantages of being single you miss when you're in a relationship?

• What main lessons have you learned from past relationships?

• What's your favorite thing about our relationship?

• In what ways are we alike? In what ways are we different?

• What’s your favorite memory of our early dating days?

• What new dating experience would you enjoy with your partner?

• In what ways do you think we are most compatible?

• What's your favorite part of being in this relationship?

• How do you describe your partner to other people?

• In what way(s) is this relationship different from others you've experienced?

• What thoughts come to mind most frequently when you think about your partner during the day?

• Which do you prefer: gifts or acts of kindness?

• Does the time of day affect when you give or receive love? Why?

• Living Together: Do you think home responsibilities should be shared or divided?

• In what way(s) do you think we are different from other couples?

• What movie reminds you of us?

• What would your ex warn me about you?

• What do you consider cheating?

• What new tradition would you enjoy establishing in our relationship?

• When have you felt most unconditionally loved? Why?

• What would instantly make you fall out of love with someone?

• Love Language: How do you prefer to show love? How do you like to receive it?

• How do you define true love?

• Imagine being with your partner at home, looking forward to a day with a completely free schedule. You can spend the day together doing whatever you want. What would your perfect day be like?

Questions About Intimacy & Sex

• What's the most intimate non-sexual thing a couple could do together?

• When was a time you remember seeing your partner and being very attracted to them?

• What makes you feel most connected to your partner?

• What makes you feel romantic?

• What do you consider sexy?

• What was your first sexual experience like?

• What is the most erotic thing two people could do together?

• What kind of touch gives you the most pleasure?

• If it were just up to you, how often would you like to have sex?

• What is your favorite sexual position?

• What is one thing your partner does that often makes you want to have sex?

• What one thing could your partner do to make sex better for you?

• What new sexual experience would you enjoy exploring with your partner?

• What is a sexual fantasy you've had (whether or not you'd ever experience it)?

• What are three things that happen outside the bedroom that make you more interested in having sex?

• Outside of the bedroom, where would you enjoy having sex?

• What is your favorite physical/sexual memory of us?