Saying “I’m sorry” can be one of the most vulnerable, courageous things you do in a relationship. Too many apologies fall flat because of the word that came next.

Trickle truth happens when the full truth isn’t told upfront. Instead, it leaks out slowly over time. This article considers why it happens, and how it hinders affair recovery.

The healing work of forgiveness is blocked when the injured partner refuses to let the offender off the hook.

Forgiveness is hindered when an apology is offered to provide relief for the offender rather than the one who was hurt.

A consideration of completed forgiveness that includes both cognitive and emotional resolutions.

Can we choose to forgive even if the offender hasn’t taken responsibility or asked for forgiveness?

Forgiveness offered with conditions isn’t effective because it isn’t real forgiveness.

An explanation of fake forgiveness: what it is and why it hinders relationship healing.

Reasons why forgiveness that is offered prematurely is ineffective.

Many of the clients I work with struggle with forgiveness. Forgiveness does not come easily to most of us; we have to find our way to it. This article will guide you toward the kind of forgiveness that brings freedom and new beginnings.

“We need counseling.”

That’s often the first response from couples in the wake of an affair. The betrayal has just come to light, emotions are raw, and both partners are overwhelmed. Reaching out for help is a healthy instinct — but jumping into couples counseling too soon can sometimes do more harm than good.

It’s natural to run from pain. So why do I step into it every day? Why have I spent years walking alongside people who feel more hurt than hope, who rage against the betrayal that broke their dreams, who cling to a fragile thread of possibility?