Make Your Own Quirky-Versary (and tell us about it!)
by Tim Tedder, based on a recent trend reported in the New York Post.
Forget anniversaries. Forget diamonds. Welcome to the era of Arbitrary‑versaries—uniquely personal relationship milestones that only you and your partner would celebrate.
These quirky celebrations are different for each couple. One couple commemorated the day their dog first barked in unison with their morning alarm. Another marked the “annual spaghetti‐for‐dinner night,” every year on a Wednesday, because that chaotic, flour‑splattered evening made them laugh so hard they almost cried.
TikTok and Reddit are packed with these: “the first time I called you to complain about the slow line at Starbucks,” “the night we binge‐watched through 2 a.m. without falling asleep,” “the moment we both realized we silently despise pineapple on pizza.” Relationship experts say these goofy, offbeat celebrations help couples reconnect emotionally and stave off relationship stagnation.
For couples navigating affair recovery, finding light in the cracks of a heavy experience can be healing. You don’t need to force celebration around painful dates. Instead, try marking something unexpected: the first time you both cried watching the same movie, the moment you both admitted therapy was helping, the night you managed to laugh in the middle of an argument. Celebrating these quiet, quirky wins won’t erase the past, but it might help shape a more connected future.
Share Your Quirky-Versary!
If you have a unique celebration in your relationship (or if you’re creating a new one now), tell us about it. If we get more than a couple, we’ll share them in a future post update.
