Course Overview

Your Course & Coaching Schedule

This course includes audio lessons, worksheets, and 4 private sessions with Tim Tedder. The audio lessons include comments from others who, like you, were trying to figure out their "why." Many of the sessions include additional resource downloads.

STEP 1: Know what to expect from this course.
Prepare for what you will do in this course and what the course will do for you. Consider your current understanding of why you were unfaithful.

STEP 2: Explore the meaning behind your affair.
Review the common motives in an affair. Identify the primary motive(s) for starting and continuing your affair.

STEP 3: Map your path to infidelity.
Explore the series of compromises and justifications that led to your ultimate choices.

Private Coaching Session

STEP 4: What shaped you? (Historical Risks)
Identify the parts of your past that affect your risk for an affair.

STEP 5: What’s in your basement? (Hidden Risks)
Identify what “hidden things” are risks for an affair.

Private Coaching Session

STEP 6: What had your marriage become? (Relationship Risks)
Identify issues in your relationship (and your responses to them) that increased your risk.

STEP 7: What were the circumstances? (Circumstantial Risks)
Identify unique circumstances that increased your risk for infidelity.

TRANSITION: Let’s think about change.
Let’s consider: What motivations lead to temporary change? What leads to ongoing change? Will the changes we make today have permanence?

Private Coaching Session

STEP 8: Make a change plan.
Determine future responses that will reduce each identified risk.

STEP 9: Decide your next steps.
Identify the practical, measurable actions you will take first.

Private Coaching Session

STEP 10: Talk about it.
Know what to say to your partner. 

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