Affair Recovery Help
Although my affair counseling services are based in the Orlando, Florida area, the information and resources provided on this site are intended to be beneficial to anyone who is coping with an affair. I hope they will be helpful to you. Tim Tedder
Cheating... Infidelity... Adultery...
Whatever you call it, many relationships are affected by acts of unfaithfulness. Once an affair is discovered, marriages struggle to survive while the spouses wrestle with emotions and choices that will have a significant impact on the rest of their lives. There is no such thing as an affair without consequences and the steps to affair recovery require intentional effort.
But here's the good news: Healing is possible. In fact, the goal of affair recovery is not to just get "back to normal," but to get to a better place than you were before. The work it takes to get there is worth it.
How could this affair happened? Can I ever trust my spouse again? Is my marriage worth saving? How can I be married to someone I am no longer in love with? What did I do wrong? Should I forgive? When will the pain go away? Do we stay together for the sake of the children?
I've worked with hundreds of couples who are trying to find their way through the confusion of an affair, and here are a few things I know for certain...
Affairs change relationships.
On the other side of an affair, people experience shifts in how they relate to their spouse, their lover, their children, their family, their friends. Affairs that become public tend to impact numerous relationships; private affairs may affect fewer, but still in significant ways.
Affairs change individuals.
Nobody goes through an affair without being changed. An affair often touches all the participants in the deepest part of their being, especially if there has been strong emotional involvement. If you are connected to an affair, you can expect your life to be altered.
Your change after an affair can be for better, not worse.
This is the good news. Your marriage can end up stronger on the other side of affair recovery. You and your spouse can find yourselves closer than you have ever been, moving in a pattern of growing intimacy that lasts your lifetime; not only surviving, but thriving together. And even if your marriage doesn't survive the affair, you can find your way toward a greater experience of grace and wholeness.
I'm not trying to make recovery sound easy; it's not. It's quite difficult, but it is not hopeless. The resources on this site are provided to help you find your way to something better.
On this site...
- Affair Counseling available locally and online; office in Orlando, Florida.
- Stages of Affair Recovery, providing an overview of stages of recovery. (Free PDF version available for download.)
- Books & Resources helpful to those struggling with affair & marriage issues.
- Questions & Answers for those affected by an affair.
- Stories & Comments from those who have experienced affair pain and recovery.
- Affair Articles related to affair healing.
- About Tim Tedder, Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Nationally Certified Counselor