Affair healing Blog
I will never forgive my husband. I will never forgive the whore who took him away from me. This wasn't my choice and yet I have to carry the pain for their selfish choices. I hope they both rot in hell.
It's a sentiment often expressed, in one way or another, by those who have been betrayed by infidelity. The pain inflicted on them, perhaps the greatest emotional pain they will ever experience, is undeserved. Why would anyone even suggest forgiving such a selfish, unjust act?
A wife sat in my office yesterday, explaining the many ways in which she continued to figure out why her husband had an affair, with special attention to wondering what was wrong with their marriage... what was wrong with her. She felt that somehow she must carry blame for his unfaithfulness.
I told her the same thing that is often repeated to betrayed partners: "You are not responsible for your husband's affair." Not even a little bit.