Affair Questions & Answers > The Spouse (17 entries)
Answers to questions asked by spouses/partners of someone who had and affair.
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If your spouse is cheating, he/she is not likely to admit it. The more you accuse, the more they will deny. I believe you have a right to know ...
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Do you have good reason to suspect that the relationship has gone beyond friendship? Do you know if any boundaries have been crossed (expressions of affection, secret meetings, any kind of ...
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Your choice to leave or stay depends on a number of factors. In deciding whether or not to give your spouse a second chance, I'd encourage you to ask the following ...
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For a while, it will be natural for you to question & doubt your spouse. There is no shortcut around the TIME it takes for trust to be re-established. So, even ...
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Yes, you have the right to know. In my opinion, you need your spouse's complete honesty for at least three important reasons: You can't effectively navigate ...
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Think about it this way: If the affair is a picture, then you need to see it's frame (the boundaries of the affair: its start, its end, its extent, etc. See ...
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The rebuilding of trust takes time. Your spouse broke a promise to you and inflicted a deep wound. He/she needs to repay the damage by exerting great effort in earning back ...
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I find that people are often confused about the difference between forgiveness and trust. They're not the same. Forgiveness says, "I let go of this offense and release you from its ...
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They will want it. They will hope for it. But they cannot demand forgiveness. It is your gift to give or withhold. But whether or not they deserve it, I believe ...
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No, I don't think you are. Any word, feeling, touch, or desire that belongs to you but is given to someone else falls into the category of an affair and will ...
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You can't. In fact, the harder you work at trying to make your spouse love you, the more they will resent you and move away from you. It ...
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If you found out your spouse was cheating on you, you will experience anger. Initially, some of this anger will be directed at your spouse. Don't hesitate to express it. You ...
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My answer is given with the assumption that the affair is over. I don't think it is ever healthy for a person to be a willing participant in their spouse's affair ...
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If your spouse is saying they want to stay in your marriage, I believe you should insist they attend counseling with you, but only insist on 2 or 3 ...
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If the discovery of the affair is recent, you probably aren't even at a place to be able to answer that question right now. You need time to determine whether or ...
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Probably longer than you think. At least months, possibly years. One popular rule of thumb is that the time required for marriage recovery is often equal to the length of affair ...
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If your spouse has had an affair, it is likely that there will be some powerful forces at work to keep them from fully acknowledging the consequences of what they've done. ...

