Affair Questions & Answers > The Spouse (18 entries)
Answers to questions asked by spouses/partners of someone who had and affair.
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If your spouse is cheating, he/she is not likely to admit it. The more you accuse, the more they will deny. I believe you have a right to know ...
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Do you have good reason to suspect that the relationship has gone beyond friendship? Do you know if any boundaries have been crossed (expressions of affection, secret meetings, any kind of ...
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Your choice to leave or stay depends on a number of factors. In deciding whether or not to give your spouse a second chance, I'd encourage you to ask the following ...
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For a while, it will be natural for you to question & doubt your spouse. There is no shortcut around the TIME it takes for trust to be re-established. So, even ...
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The rebuilding of trust takes time. Your spouse broke a promise to you and inflicted a deep wound. He/she needs to repay the damage by exerting great effort in earning back ...
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I find that people are often confused about the difference between forgiveness and trust. They're not the same. Forgiveness says, "I let go of this offense and release you from its ...
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They will want it. They will hope for it. But they cannot demand forgiveness. It is your gift to give or withhold. But I will tell you that whether or not ...
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No, I don't think you are. Any word, feeling, touch, or desire that belongs to you but is given to someone else falls into the category of an affair and will ...
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If you found out your spouse was cheating on you, you will experience anger. Initially, some of this anger will be directed at your spouse. Don't hesitate to express it. You ...
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My answer is given with the assumption that the affair is over. I don't think it is ever healthy for a person to be a willing participant in their spouse's affair ...
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You have a right to know the details, but you probably shouldn't know all of them. I understand your curiosity to know everything about the affair. When I ask spouses to ...
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There is not an absolute answer to this question; it depends on the variables of your situation. Consider the following questions when deciding whether or not to make contact... ...
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People who have affairs often come out of them with a feeling of not being "in love" with their spouses anymore. This can be a very confusing time for both of ...
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You can't. In fact, the harder you work at trying to make your spouse love you, the more they will resent you and move away from you. You ...
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If your spouse is saying they want to stay in your marriage, I believe you should demand they attend counseling with you, but insist only on 2 or 3 ...
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If your spouse has had an affair, it is likely that there will be some powerful forces at work to keep them from fully acknowledging the consequences of what they've done. ...
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If the discovery of the affair is recent, you probably aren't even at a place to be able to answer that question right now. You need time to determine whether or ...
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Probably longer than you think. At least months, possibly years. One popular rule of thumb is that the time required for marriage recovery is often equal to the length of affair ...

